I am a divorced NCP of three kids. My ex gets a huge CS check each month of 3k.

I am a divorced NCP of three kids. I am only allowed by the court to see them every other weekend. My ex gets a huge CS check each month of 3k. Yet, my daughter each month says things like "Dad its your turn to get me new shoes." That always makes me so angry because she is getting so much money. Lately, I thought about it and said to her, "If I get you new shoes they are going to stay at my apartment for when you come to visit."

How do other NCP's handle this?

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Loretta78 · 46-50, F

Although actually your story is so dramatically it made me laugh hardly.

I've never got one single cent from my former "husband."

Before I left him he took with a fake signature all my savings from my bank account (20.000 $) and disappeared for a while.

When I educated my son completely alone the last 16 years we had to manage our life anyhow because despite my fulltime job there was never enough money - very often even not for food. You even don't want to know how many times in my life I went hungry to bed and still do.

But what actually should be still more missed than "Daddie's money" should be his love, his time, his presence.

Sadly my son has got never anything of those things as I also never got one of those things from my own father.

Well! How to handle it? It makes to distrust everybody.