You are very wise. Some women would stay, thereby staying abused. You're thinking of yourself and your child and that is so important. You're doing the right thing and I'll be praying for you that God will lead you and give you all the provisions you need. You have a good plan. You're right about everything you said and you must not tell him your plans. That might sound silly to say but some women do and then that just gives them time to manipulate and control more to get you to stay and this is one thing you cannot do and must not do, is stay. Do you have a plan? You could write me privately and tell me what and how you plan to do things and I can help you because I've been through all that. You'll be okay. Just let the Lord lead you and you will be okay. He will give you ideas you never thought of. Much love.

If you have a job, or job skills, you can get away. But there are legal ramifications to taking someone's child over state lines.

When I left the ex for the second time, I got in touch with a local Battered Women's shelter. They are HIDDEN. If you have been physically abused, all you have to do to find the shelter is go to your local ER and ask for the location. THEY will tell you where it is.

When I went, it was for the free counseling. I did not want or need a shelter in which to live. I went to counseling every week, and got awesome advice on where to live, what mechanic in town was NOT a total dick to women needing car repairs, and would not cheat women.

I think THAT is where you should start. The Battered women's shelters also offer a food pantry with free food to those who need it, and they can counsel you on how to separate your money and keep it hidden, so that you can save first and last months rent, and they will help you find a job where your partner can't find you.

There is a network out there. You might be able to find a woman inside the network who wouldn't mind a room mate.

If you are in the U.S., here is the number for the National Domestic Abuse Hotline

800-799-7233

Hopefully, someone there will give your the support and advice that you need.

Please keep yourself and your child safe.

I haven't but there are others who have and also organizations and programs to help tho in need of assistance to escape such things..

I ran away and didn't see them for 11 years. My x wife insisted that I start seeing my parents again. The physical abuse stopped but the mental abuse didn't.

Stealth moving can be tricky, you have to be OK with losing a lot of stuff. Getting control of the money is key, you need to start farming some to an account only you have access to. Save up as much as you can so you are ready.
Do not tell anyone what you are planning, even your best friends might betray you to him and that can be dangerous.
Tell him you are going to visit your parents and go the opposite direction and never come back.

i had a ex who just kept telling what kind of bad girl i was when he was heavy on roids and mixed it with alchol like i couldnt do anything right for him finaly left him glad i did took alot out of me

I moved. I stopped drinking changed my peers.

Never been in that situation.

And the other side of the story is....🤔

Oh, that's right. This is social media. 🤦🏻‍♂ What was I thinking?

is this mooncrest02 ?

Yes never assimilated by the system