How have u safely got away and kept away from abuser..?

For some time now i have been dealing with an extrememely abusive partner . To the point i listened to everytine he said he was gonna change his behavior, hes been physically and verbally violent with me and my kid. i know that i have to leave bc u can keep a fascade but for so long but i dont know where to go , i dont want to be in a shelter..i know this guy is dangerous and if i leave i have to disappear for good bc i have his kid and i feel he may try to hurt us like you hear the men doing nowadays bc the gf wants to leave for good.. i guess um having a hard time accepting im ultimately need to move out the state bc my sons father will stay always hunting me..

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LadyGrace ·

You are very wise. Some women would stay, thereby staying abused. You're thinking of yourself and your child and that is so important. You're doing the right thing and I'll be praying for you that God will lead you and give you all the provisions you need. You have a good plan. You're right about everything you said and you must not tell him your plans. That might sound silly to say but some women do and then that just gives them time to manipulate and control more to get you to stay and this is one thing you cannot do and must not do, is stay. Do you have a plan? You could write me privately and tell me what and how you plan to do things and I can help you because I've been through all that. You'll be okay. Just let the Lord lead you and you will be okay. He will give you ideas you never thought of. Much love.

moonpeace81 · 31-35, F

@LadyGrace yeah thank u i am trying my best here , i have a deep plan for him im just praying to god also not to lose my shit and end up in a worst situation.

moonpeace81 · 31-35, F

@LadyGrace i have also learned his ways.. hes very manipulative , speaks on god and how men supposwd to treat women, but hes spitting in baby bottles(he told me he did to his friends kids for not paying him to babysit) , starting an argument evey other week that last for hours and i caught him slapping my toddler .. i wont say much but i have something dark for him

LadyGrace ·

@moonpeace81 don't do anything to him. Just get out of there with your children. Oh I couldn't stand it if he was spitting in the kids baby bottle. Oh my gosh. When do you plan on leaving?

moonpeace81 · 31-35, F

@LadyGrace the thing is i have my own apartment im waiting for him to leave so i can change the locks and i even waited for him to just throw out the garbage .. im trying to play smart .. i know ibshouldnt do anything but i have to do something to pay him pay .. guy has been arguing with me to the point my neighbors hear it and he isnt saying nice things so imma get him

LadyGrace ·

@moonpeace81 it's not a good idea to take revenge. Vengeance is mine saith the Lord. If you do that and take things in your own hands instead of allowing God to speak to his heart and change it, that will come back on you. The best thing you can do is to let him go and that in itself will make him think and understand he was wrong. If you do something against him that will just keep an ongoing fight and ongoing retaliation and that's not what you want because you don't know what he will do or what he's capable of. Just let him go and let him go his way and you go your way. That's not playing it's smart to try to get vengeance. And the Lord will also bless you for not trying to hurt someone