How have u safely got away and kept away from abuser..?

For some time now i have been dealing with an extrememely abusive partner . To the point i listened to everytine he said he was gonna change his behavior, hes been physically and verbally violent with me and my kid. i know that i have to leave bc u can keep a fascade but for so long but i dont know where to go , i dont want to be in a shelter..i know this guy is dangerous and if i leave i have to disappear for good bc i have his kid and i feel he may try to hurt us like you hear the men doing nowadays bc the gf wants to leave for good.. i guess um having a hard time accepting im ultimately need to move out the state bc my sons father will stay always hunting me..

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LadyGrace ·

You are very wise. Some women would stay, thereby staying abused. You're thinking of yourself and your child and that is so important. You're doing the right thing and I'll be praying for you that God will lead you and give you all the provisions you need. You have a good plan. You're right about everything you said and you must not tell him your plans. That might sound silly to say but some women do and then that just gives them time to manipulate and control more to get you to stay and this is one thing you cannot do and must not do, is stay. Do you have a plan? You could write me privately and tell me what and how you plan to do things and I can help you because I've been through all that. You'll be okay. Just let the Lord lead you and you will be okay. He will give you ideas you never thought of. Much love.

moonpeace81 · 31-35, F

@LadyGrace yeah thank u i am trying my best here , i have a deep plan for him im just praying to god also not to lose my shit and end up in a worst situation.

moonpeace81 · 31-35, F

@LadyGrace i have also learned his ways.. hes very manipulative , speaks on god and how men supposwd to treat women, but hes spitting in baby bottles(he told me he did to his friends kids for not paying him to babysit) , starting an argument evey other week that last for hours and i caught him slapping my toddler .. i wont say much but i have something dark for him

LadyGrace ·

@moonpeace81 don't do anything to him. Just get out of there with your children. Oh I couldn't stand it if he was spitting in the kids baby bottle. Oh my gosh. When do you plan on leaving?