How have u safely got away and kept away from abuser..?

For some time now i have been dealing with an extrememely abusive partner . To the point i listened to everytine he said he was gonna change his behavior, hes been physically and verbally violent with me and my kid. i know that i have to leave bc u can keep a fascade but for so long but i dont know where to go , i dont want to be in a shelter..i know this guy is dangerous and if i leave i have to disappear for good bc i have his kid and i feel he may try to hurt us like you hear the men doing nowadays bc the gf wants to leave for good.. i guess um having a hard time accepting im ultimately need to move out the state bc my sons father will stay always hunting me..

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4meAndyou · F

If you have a job, or job skills, you can get away. But there are legal ramifications to taking someone's child over state lines.

When I left the ex for the second time, I got in touch with a local Battered Women's shelter. They are HIDDEN. If you have been physically abused, all you have to do to find the shelter is go to your local ER and ask for the location. THEY will tell you where it is.

When I went, it was for the free counseling. I did not want or need a shelter in which to live. I went to counseling every week, and got awesome advice on where to live, what mechanic in town was NOT a total dick to women needing car repairs, and would not cheat women.

I think THAT is where you should start. The Battered women's shelters also offer a food pantry with free food to those who need it, and they can counsel you on how to separate your money and keep it hidden, so that you can save first and last months rent, and they will help you find a job where your partner can't find you.

There is a network out there. You might be able to find a woman inside the network who wouldn't mind a room mate.