I had to fire a family member

my sister's husband was making 2 million dollars a year. she spent it all. his dad died and he got depressed and started only making 1 million dollars a year and now shes crying poor mouth. me shakes my head.

I’m sure you did the right thing. My sister was a druggie for a loooong time. My dad kept trying to help her, but all he was doing was enabling her. As soon as he cut off all help, she got her act together and she’s been clean for about 4 years now. My dad is currently letting a couple stay on his property in a camper. The husband insists only working in the summer is enough to get by. His wife is disabled. So they’ve found their selves homeless multiple times. This past winter they were living in a tent and my dad finally helped them get this camper. The wife has been wonderful…she does her best to clean my dad’s house and she even cooks him dinner. I highly doubt the man will find any work after summer ends. I just don’t understand how he can be ok living like that. They’re in their 50’s….

We all want to do right by people and help when we can. We can’t help when they won’t help their self though.

It's painful, but that's what you have to do with people who lie around all day drinking and getting high and watching cartoons on tv.

Very early in my relationship with the third ex, I suggested that we take in my brother in law, because he had no job and no place to stay. We let him sleep on the sofa in our one bedroom apartment. He drank all the ex's beer, would not look for a job, and watched cartoons all day while laughing like a hyena.

I WANTED to do what I thought was the right thing, but in many instances, doing the right thing is enabling bums to continue in their useless behaviors.

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Then my older brother took him in, and my older brother had a cleaning service that would clean his house three times a week and my other brother was bossing them around, so they quit, so he had to kick him out. The point is, don't feel bad. You done the right thing. In fact you are actually helping him more this way. 🙂

That was indentured servitude.

perhaps he'll learn his lesson - maybe not
but you don't have to be his keeper

Without knowing any of the background of WHY he was homeless in the first place, I wouldn't like to venture an opinion. My experience of homeless people - one of my friends helps to run a homeless outreach charity in Liverpool - is that the vast majority have mental problems and suffer from addiction in one form or another.

I have a brother that at one time lived with me and my wife and he had chores to do. Well, he went and hired someone to do them, and I had to pay for it. 🤣 True story. I had to kick him out. 😅

... but he's your brother 😐

good for you. it is all about boundaries...yours

That’s the reason he’s been homeless it seems.

Very brotherly. It was a teaching moment. I hope he learns not to depend on you, once and for all.

I assume you gave him several clear warnings beforehand?

That must've been difficult. I'm sorry he let you down.

Never work with family or friends

This is why I don't work with family.

I am so sorry to hear that 💔😢