How to defeat a highly narcissistic mother?
She thinks she does no wrong. She really hurt me today and I want nothing to do with her. My dad passed away three years ago and I wish it was her in his place instead.
31-35, F
HallofMirrors · 31-35, M
I had to cut off my mom after a ton of yelling at each other and arguing for the same reasons for a few months, strict no contact.
She eventually woke up to her mistakes and apologized for them.
Our relationship has gotten better since then.
Focus on communication and clear the air. It will help you feel better and her. She loves you
She eventually woke up to her mistakes and apologized for them.
Our relationship has gotten better since then.
Focus on communication and clear the air. It will help you feel better and her. She loves you
disturbedchicken · 31-35, F
@HallofMirrors I'm glad you were able to resolve your family issues.I'm done with my mother she's done nothing but hurt me and I'm ready to cut her off she doesn't love me and has proved it many times.
HallofMirrors · 31-35, M
@disturbedchicken then its time to preserve your well being.
If you have to go no contact then do what you have to do.
If you have to go no contact then do what you have to do.
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Ducky · 31-35, F
I had to deal with a narcissistic spouse (shows narcissistic tendencies, at the very least) and from my experience, the only way to deal with any individual like that is to distance yourself from them. It may not be easy for you to do so, but in the end, everyone has to look out for themselves. If your mother is really bringing you down so much, then maybe it’s time to cut her off and get her out of your life. That’s my advice as someone who’s recently had to cut someone similar out from my life, anyway. For what it’s worth, I’ve been much happier for it.
HijabaDabbaDoo · F
You can't defeat anyone who's a perpetual victim. Just disengage and put energy into building a good support system. Narcissistic abuse is centered around being a supply for them. Even if you spend time arguing back, it's supply for them because it's still a sense of power and control.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
There is your problem, right there. She is already making it about her and ignoring you. You really have to make it all about you and not about her. She cant be allowed to hurt you even if it means breaking contact. Its not like she will really miss you. Just what she expects you to do for her..😷
CountScrofula · 41-45, M
disturbedchicken · 31-35, F
She's formed a creepy emotional incestuous relationship with my brother who Is 32. He gives her his entire pay check and acts like he's her man it's so weird and cringe.
Dadbod52 · 56-60, M
if she is a true narcissist then you not wanting her around will hurt her.
disturbedchicken · 31-35, F
@Dadbod52 She's a pos really and she could care less if I walked away. I think that's what she wants. She's dead to me now.
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NativePortlander1970 · 51-55
(((((HUGS))))) I am so very sorry for your loss 😢🤗❤ My mother is also very narcissistic, however at the age of 32 I wrote her a nine page letter hilighting everything she did to me while growing up and as an adult up to that point, the final straw was when she called me a failure over the phone. It was a very nice and quiet 13 months.