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Do children deserve apologies and explantions from parents ?

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Firestarter · 26-30, F

Yes, their still people just younger

RenFur · 70-79, M Best Comment

Excellent post.

Kids do and your parents deserve belated apologies, too.

RenFur · 70-79, M

@RenFur

Best Post this week.

SandWitch · 26-30, F

@RenFur
Excellent post? Best Post this week? ..and you received Best Comment? Why? 😆

She only asked a question where the answer is obvious and quite frankly, beyond further discussion from that!

deadgerbil · 22-25

Obviously. How is this a serious question

Parents who can't admit that they make mistakes and act like they're always right just bc they pay the bills do not deserve children at all

JollyRoger · 70-79, M

@deadgerbil Right... BUT: We know that it's sex that causes children, not brains. So there's no 'Deserving' involved, it just happens. Some parents were never raised by their own parents and are now 'stuck' in the situation of having to raise children as they experienced their childhood.... not a very pleasant experience on either side.
Given the other side of this discussion about (let's say) wealthy and educated parents who are selfish and hire others to raise their children so they don't have to show responsibility for them: YOU'RE DEFINITELY RIGHT.

deadgerbil · 22-25

@JollyRoger yeah, lots of people hate their own childhoods but then go on to perpetuate the cycle

WanderlustCat · 36-40, M

Absolutely. They’re human beings not accessories.

Sidewinder · 36-40, M

@WanderlustCat I wholeheartedly agree.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

Yes, it models humility, owning up to one's mistakes, teaches offering someone grace and forgiveness, teaches that no one is perfect- not even your parents.

helenS · 36-40, F

Yes of course, people should never think parenthood is an autocracy.
Welcome to SW, by the way! 🌷

Blondily · F

Yes especially if they are manipulative control freaks.

Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F

If you mess up you admit it and make it right no matter how young or old the person you wronged is; kids learn from us and if you srart early they will mimic what you do.

brokensignal · 46-50, M

If a parent did them wrong, yes. And that’s also a vice versa situation… Basically humans aren’t infallible and often screw up in their relationships. Apologies should be a common part of our interactions. If parents lead by example in this area, it might cultivate the self awareness in their children to know when they’ve let someone down and need to say “I’m sorry”. Entitled people don’t apologize. Narcissistic people don’t apologize. Be very wary of those who act like an apology is some impossible thing to do.

hunkalove · 61-69, M

Treat everyone the way you want to be treated. That's how life works.

walabby · 61-69, M

Yes. I always apologized to my kids if I got it wrong...

TexChik · F

If the parent wants their love ,trust, and respect.

smiler2012 · 56-60

@EPreject yes i think they do i am the adult and you are the kid is not an reasonable explanation too a childs question why they can not have or do something. they deserve an explanation for you reason and it then helps the kid understand there is a good reason why. far as apologies if you do wrong by your kid you should apologise it then teaches the kid if you are out of line you should say sorry for whatever they have done. respect towards others whether adult or child works both ways and apologising as an adult it teaches kids respect

JustNik · 51-55, F

Most definitely. My parents did not believe so and that damaged my respect for them for a time. The “do as I say, not as I do” method is not a great one.

LilPrincess · 41-45, F

Yes mine always did and I do the same for mine. If i do something wrong I own up to it and it teaches them to do the same.

Primnproper · 56-60, F

Absolutely if its warranted and they shouldn't be disciplined without knowing exactly what its for.

Musicman · 61-69, M

@Primnproper Exactly! I completely and fully agree with you. No child should ever be disciplined without knowing why. I have been before and found it hurtful and not just the spanking either.

TheOthetAcc · 36-40, M

Yes. Children are monkey see monkey do. If that's what you want to teach your kids, they have to see it from you.

ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M

Sometimes, depending on the situation. I'd think that if a parents makes a mistake it would be good to acknowledge it to the child, not just providing a apology but also providing a good example to the child that no one is perfect and apologizing isn't something to be ashamed of.

PleasurePunch · 100+

They deserve basic respect and meaningful guidance. If the adults really love their children that will happen, the details are behind closed doors though... if apologies are appropriate I'd say of course, though no hard and fast "rules"...

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BizSuitStacy · M

Yes. I used to hate it when my parents wouldn't explain things... particularly when they were wrong.

Poppies · 61-69, F

Yes, children deserve respect even as adults do. I sometimes apologized to my children.

JimboSaturn · 51-55, M

Yes, if you have wronged your children, you apologize as you do to everyone else.

MrFinch · M

I would hope so. How can they learn without an example?

deadteddy · 26-30, F

At least my parents always did. Especially my dad

ButterRobot · 51-55, M

Yes, it’s good modeling

TheOrionbeltseeker · 36-40, M

Yes, in full compliance.

tfan123 · 41-45, M

Of course. If I make a mistake - I own up to it. If I think it’s my son’s fault and I blame him and find out it wasn’t his fault, I apologize and explain why I thought it was his fault. He always gives me a hug and says that’s alright daddy 🙂

robertsnj · 56-60, M

deserver is an interesting word choice. If we replaced deserver with "[i]entitled to[/i]" ts the meaning of the question changed?

Also what age ranges are we talking about/? in your mind how old are children?

Ferric67 · M

If I were a parent
I would absolutely explain everything to my child
So they could understand
And make informed decisions as they mature

NerdyPotato · M

Absolutely. Everyone makes mistakes, but if you're not willing to apologize and try to correct them, don't take on responsibility for other people.

pillowprincess · F

Of course they do. They're human beings. Make the explanations age-appropriate.

Musicman · 61-69, M

I say they do. Lead by example. Show them the right way to live life.

OverTheHill · 56-60, M

At times, yes. Depends upon the situation and circumstance.

bijouxbroussard · F

Yes, when parents are in the wrong, they should have the humility to admit it. That models to children that everyone makes mistakes and that there is no shame in acknowledging them.