I'm lonely but not ready to date

Oh, my, my heat is with you!!! I experienced the same--wife passed two and a half years ago. Give it some time. grieve. Feel into it. Cry when you need to. Talk to people. In time you will feel like moving forward--but still loving the many you loved. I started dating and have found someone special...it can happen..and yes on the intimacy as well... sending you much love!!

I lost my wife around 18 months ago. When I’m asked if I will get with someone I usually say “ I don’t ever want to feel this away or make someone else feel it” I have starting chatting with a couple people I was very clear from the start yet they wanted more than I give so I was the bad guy!! I don’t think the temporary boost of having a connection makes you feel worse I am so sorry you’re going through. This

I get hanging onto the ashes. Its hard to let go of that last bit of him. But his ashes are your handcuffs. When you look at them...........he is there and that puts a lock you thinking its OK to date and move on. In every sense when you look at that urn.... he is still THERE in your life.......looking at you everyday. Scattering ur ashes with his after you have passed on gives you no closure...........now. And by the time it's done.........you won't know it was done/....or how.. Scatter them now...........that is your goodbye memorial to him. Then YOU can be positive his ashes are in a place that honors him........not just dumped by someone after you are gone to get rid of them.

If he loved you..........he would not want you to be lonely, unhappy. It is hard someone lose a lover......it is harder still to live alone in a guilt trip for the rest of your life.

Do you really want to be dating??? Maybe you're craving companionship more than a relationship???

I don't know, I'm just finding out for myself that sometimes, after the loss of a relationship, something inside you shifts or changes enough where a new relationship doesn't feel right. I just haven't managed to find any answers to dig myself out of this funk just yet.

My way of dealing at the moment is to bury myself in other things so I'm not looking for him anymore.

So sorry for your loss. I can only imagine what you went/are going through.
My personal opinion, you will know when you are ready. No need to think you have to start looking.

Please give yourself time, time to process…
No one will ever take his place in your heart, but this doesn’t mean that you won’t one day allow yourself to open up to someone else, when the time is right you will know it in your heart.

Maybe you just need a friend, or a roommate - someone to share the less intimate things with. Lonely is not fun.

I am so sorry to read this ….

My condolences :(

sorry for your loss

Your welcome

Take your time