I'm lonely but not ready to date

Since the man I loved passed away I just haven't felt like dating anyone else and its been over a year now. I miss intimacy, but I still love him so dating feels somehow wrong. I also don't feel like I could ever love someone like I loved him. So it seems unfair to anyone I date. Plus I have his ashes in my bedroom so thats another thing. We wanted to be scattered together somewhere when I die. I just don't really even know who I am anymore or truly what I want my future to be.

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HootyTheNightOwl

Do you really want to be dating??? Maybe you're craving companionship more than a relationship???

I don't know, I'm just finding out for myself that sometimes, after the loss of a relationship, something inside you shifts or changes enough where a new relationship doesn't feel right. I just haven't managed to find any answers to dig myself out of this funk just yet.

My way of dealing at the moment is to bury myself in other things so I'm not looking for him anymore.