I get you being put out, but I also understand there are many reasons they haven't invited you.. and probably other partners too.
Remember, wedding ettiqutte is a minefield and although theses days its not as common, tradition states the brides family pay for the wedding, so if they dont know you personally and have lots of family and close friends they want there, partners of friends may not be priority.
In the past, i've been invited to weddings of people i work with. Good friends I know socially too....but my husband wasnt invited.
We have a family wedding coming up in a few months. Me hubs and our two grown up kids have been invited.....but not their other halves. My son's partner is also a friend of the couple, but she's not invited.
The couple stated on the invites they are not doing 'plus ones' as they really want everyone at their wedding to be people they know and love so everyone is totally comfortable and able to let their hair down!

Im sure its nothing personal against you. Wish them well and let your partner go along to support his lifelong friend on his special day.
If it were one of your longstanding friends and they didnt invite yr man.....would you still go??? I know I would!!

Not being weird at all. But Weddings are a tough one. As much as its painful, if its a limited number and its your bf's friend it might be a case of no kids and no significant others to keep the initial numbers down.

Its happened to me before and what could happen is once some people RSVP to say they cant make it thatll free up spaces.

Easy for me to say, but try not to take it personally. Its probably a logistical thing and a lot of partners wont have been invited unless theyre close to the couple.

Don't take it personal. If he knows you well, then yes. But he is the friend of your bf, not yours. I wouldn't put too much thought in something like this.

I think I speak for everyone when I say that at least it’s not your boyfriend himself not inviting you to his wedding. You hear about these stories where the girlfriend doesn’t realise her guy is set to marry someone else. I’m sorry if I give you nightmares now.

Ask your boyfriend to talk with his friend and ask him what motivated him not to invite you to the wedding, since that friend is perfectly aware that you and him are together.

By asking the friend, your boyfriend can gently put the pressure on the friend to reconsider. That does not mean that he will invite you but it will let him be aware that the decision he took not to invite you has led your boyfriend to talk with him.

Nonetheless, I have my doubts that your boyfriend will actually talk to his friend and in that case, you have to realize that your boyfriend has made up his mind as to who has the first priority in his life and that will hurt you more than not to have been invited.

Honestly, I don't know enough about weddings...

But isn't there usually a general plus one rule?
Or no? 🤔

Like, I wonder if he assumed you would be your boyfriends +1...

Or maybe they didn't have enough seats or money to invite everyone

But I understand how you would feel left out.
I would talk with the guy get married or have your bf do it.

Tbh im on ya boyfriends side.
That's his mate not yours tbh and ya need to understand you dont have to be included in everything he gets invited to etc

Weddings are expensive. There's be little point inviting someone you dont know to it

No mention of a ‘plus one ?

Perhaps it comes down to the seating arrangements … not a difficult task to amend for the sake of one chair and one 3 course service

Was he invited to the ceremony and the after reception ?

Perhaps just go to the ceremony together then leave early 🤔

Either way it’s not something you should worry about or put your self worth into.

But I get how you must be feeling that’s why I suggest you both go to the ceremony give your best wishes , a little gift 💝 then leave

Good luck! … whatever happens , keep going, don’t let something like this defy who you are.

You're boyfriend's "friend" totally did the wrong thing. Not cool. People who do uncool things, are usually uncool themselves. I'm sorry that happened to you. 🥺

My brother didn't invite me to his wedding...

At least consider that there might be reasons that you are unaware of.

How long have you been with your boyfriend? If it's only been a short time, like a week or so, maybe the friend might have some standing. But if you've been with him a while, then you seem to have a valid stance.
See if the boyfriend can find out why his friend didn't invite you.

i say, that when he invited yuour boyfriend, it was to be assumed that he would take you as a guest, when invitations are mailed it is sent to mr. and mrs. but him being single he got it,the rep;ly will say if attending and usually who, not on purpose, nothing to worry about, go and have a good time

Instead of thinking that it's all about you, it might be all about the size of the church, and the cost of the reception.

When a man gets married, the BRIDE and her mother are usually in charge of the wedding finances, and they have to determine how many will fit in the church, and how many they can afford to feed at the reception.

If he is that good a friend he could ask it is very possible it was done by the parents of the lady and even though your relationship is important to you don't consider the fact that everybody should know about it.

If this friend is fully aware of your relationship he shouldn’t go at all.

This is more than just a slap in the face and this honestly should be an ultimatum. In any normal relationship thags like the friend asking him to choose the friend or you.

Honestly if I were you I’d just put your foot down on this. The friend is the one being an extreme creep. I’d he goes at all it’s just complete disrespect towards you in that situation. And this “friend” is fully aware in knowing what they’re doing from the sounds of things. It’s the ultimate power play move.

I honestly feel extremely bad for you right now, even though you’re a complete stranger. This is one of those hard, life is fully of shorty people and will show how shitty those people will be situations.

As the most likely outcome is for your bf will go, which disrespects you. And plays into the “friends” motives and intentions. The fact that in public. Many people will see him alone without you. It is MUCH better if he doesn’t go at all. If he doesn’t realize this. He’s kind of an idiot. As it makes a public statement. To all the attendees. Him leaving at a later time only makes a private statement to whoever this “friend” is. And the balance for making both you and the boyfriend looking bad will be stacked in the favor of this “friend” if he has any common sense, DO NOT GO. But alas, we as human being rarely make the wise decision.

We had a limited wedding. So it was best friends and immediate family. But invited a couple if they were a couple.

Did they specifically say you weren't invited? Maybe they just screwed up and forgot what your name was, and it was kinda assumed since you are a couple, that one invite was enough.
Weddings are stressful for everyone, and sometimes someone else sends out the invites. Go to the wedding with him, that will really piss them off if they didn't want you to go. Serves them right. :)

I get you, that’s pretty horrid for the person not to invite you.

Yeah any wedding that doesn't include both partners on the invited list isn't worth going to. Something wrong there.

Unless it's a cost consideration, and it very well may be, I think it's weird to ask someone to attend a wedding without their significant other.

It's not weird it's rude. Have you done anything to offend them? Or are you sure you are your bfs only gf? Seems strange

Happened to me once or twice but defintely a quantity thing: numbers down the better.

Isn't the church "Open to the Public" which allows you and BF to attend ceremony together.

Someone should just tell the groom, “You don’t invite a friend to your wedding but not his girlfriend.” That seems really rude of him.

I think you should attend the event with him and just leave with him after that.

Well you are his plus one

Wow thats terrible.

If you and your boyfriend have a real relationship, just go as a couple.

Or are you using “boyfriend” loosely?

Usually an invite allows for a plus one, does this one not?

He should ask you to marry him, then not invite his friend. 😁

Aren't wedding ceremonies often full of uninvited guests, who aren't there for the reception?

I've never heard of a wedding invite that isn't +1. I

Understandable, Those eyes may scare others

50 responses and no other word from the OP?
Is this yet another bot account?

His friend shouldn't have created the situstion in the 1st place