My boyfriend's "friend" didn't invite me to the wedding and it kind of stung. Am I being weird?

So my boyfriend got invited to a wedding—I wasn’t. Yeah. That already stung. I told him it made me feel kinda invisible, like our relationship didn’t matter enough to even be acknowledged.

This is a friend my boyfriend met as a child at the church he has grown up at. We've been together for 2 years, and i've been attending my boyfriend's church for over a year.

it hurt to be excluded, especially since other people attending know he’s in a relationship. I brought it up and explained that it made me feel sidelined and like our relationship wasn’t being acknowledged.

He says he gets it, but he doesn’t want to skip the wedding entirely because he’s worried it’ll make him look petty and ruin the relationship with his friend long-term. He plans to go to the ceremony but skip the reception, hoping that it quietly shows he wasn’t cool with me being left out (and his brothers might say that too if asked).

I appreciate the effort, but honestly? It still doesn’t sit right with me. I’m trying to be understanding, but it feels like my feelings are being weighed against some hypothetical future favor. Am I being too sensitive, or would this feel weird to you too?

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AuRevoir · 36-40, M

If this friend is fully aware of your relationship he shouldn’t go at all.

This is more than just a slap in the face and this honestly should be an ultimatum. In any normal relationship thags like the friend asking him to choose the friend or you.

Honestly if I were you I’d just put your foot down on this. The friend is the one being an extreme creep. I’d he goes at all it’s just complete disrespect towards you in that situation. And this “friend” is fully aware in knowing what they’re doing from the sounds of things. It’s the ultimate power play move.

I honestly feel extremely bad for you right now, even though you’re a complete stranger. This is one of those hard, life is fully of shorty people and will show how shitty those people will be situations.

As the most likely outcome is for your bf will go, which disrespects you. And plays into the “friends” motives and intentions. The fact that in public. Many people will see him alone without you. It is MUCH better if he doesn’t go at all. If he doesn’t realize this. He’s kind of an idiot. As it makes a public statement. To all the attendees. Him leaving at a later time only makes a private statement to whoever this “friend” is. And the balance for making both you and the boyfriend looking bad will be stacked in the favor of this “friend” if he has any common sense, DO NOT GO. But alas, we as human being rarely make the wise decision.