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My boyfriend's "friend" didn't invite me to the wedding and it kind of stung. Am I being weird?

So my boyfriend got invited to a wedding—I wasn’t. Yeah. That already stung. I told him it made me feel kinda invisible, like our relationship didn’t matter enough to even be acknowledged.

This is a friend my boyfriend met as a child at the church he has grown up at. We've been together for 2 years, and i've been attending my boyfriend's church for over a year.

it hurt to be excluded, especially since other people attending know he’s in a relationship. I brought it up and explained that it made me feel sidelined and like our relationship wasn’t being acknowledged.

He says he gets it, but he doesn’t want to skip the wedding entirely because he’s worried it’ll make him look petty and ruin the relationship with his friend long-term. He plans to go to the ceremony but skip the reception, hoping that it quietly shows he wasn’t cool with me being left out (and his brothers might say that too if asked).

I appreciate the effort, but honestly? It still doesn’t sit right with me. I’m trying to be understanding, but it feels like my feelings are being weighed against some hypothetical future favor. Am I being too sensitive, or would this feel weird to you too?
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JacksonBlue · 36-40, M
Not being weird at all. But Weddings are a tough one. As much as its painful, if its a limited number and its your bf's friend it might be a case of no kids and no significant others to keep the initial numbers down.

Its happened to me before and what could happen is once some people RSVP to say they cant make it thatll free up spaces.

Easy for me to say, but try not to take it personally. Its probably a logistical thing and a lot of partners wont have been invited unless theyre close to the couple.