How do you wrap your mind around... To your parent slowly dying of an aggressive disease? My...

Docdon23 · M

yes....it is a part of life--my Dad died of lung issues then my mother had Alzheimer's for over ten years then passed...then three years ago my wife had a stoke after battling cancer twice and passed...but saying all this does not make it any easier for you. Keep your love alive in your heart.

beermeplease · M

i'm so sorry you're going through this...my dad died of cancer (needlessly because the doctors/hospital messed up his colonoscopy results) he was only 66...mom died horribly due to smoking related issues...i'll spare the details here. just want you to know your friends are thinking about you here and any time you need to reach out you are most definitely welcome to pm me....

sarabee1995 · 26-30, F

My grandfather died of lung cancer while I was in undergrad, fall semester, junior year, almost ten years ago.

I drove home from Providence to the Cape every weekend that semester, until Thanksgiving.

We sat on his couch leaning into each other watching his beloved Patriots win games. We talked for hours. We took naps leaning on each other's shoulders.

Sometimes I'd have my books in my lap and he would study along with me. We would discuss international relations and European history (my majors).

He told me to stop coming home every weekend and to enjoy my life. I told him to shut up and not say that again.

And then he passed. My grandmother too. There's a story about their passing pinned to my profile. I still hear their voices echoing in my head. 😔

Jenny1234 · 56-60, F

My mom had Alzheimer’s related dementia and my dad had cancer. It’s sad and scary.

Is your dad being kept comfortable at least?

BrandNewMan · 61-69, M

Sorry to hear this for your father. Do your best to be there and share in supporting his fight. Make the most of that time, in case it is all he has left.

I lost my grandfather to cancer. About a year after initial treatment it came back with a vengeance. Several of his grandsons were gathered at a funeral for one of us recently. Its 45 yrs later, and we all had a couple of good memories of him to share from that time.

Levenrack · 46-50, M

That is all on, how empathetic you are towards everyone's well-being... yours included.
I know you carry an emotional burden your mother has so unlovingly gifted upon you, and that will cause issues when all you'd hope and love to do is show and give emotional support to everyone involved.
So I will impart this onto you.... only put yourself out there, if they are gracefully deserving of such.
If you truly love your dad and not for the fact that you're just supposed to. When the time does come, that can lead to a better closure for you and him.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

It's terrible to watch a parent go. I lost my dad in 2019. But he was in bad health. When quality of life begins to slide, it can be so difficult. Peace to you during this time.

Banksy83 · 41-45, M

You can only be there, one thing I must say ,dont start blaming yourself or start having feelings of guilt. He is lucky to have you caring for him .

fun4us2b · M

So Sorry. You spend time with them. And talk. But also play. Over time, you will both come closer to adapting...not fully, but better.

FreeSpirit1 · 51-55, F

I lost both parents to cancer , it's the worst way to die. 😞

JoyfulSilence · 51-55, M

So sorry.

tenente · 36-40, M

hope you find comfort soon