dating a woman who's previous partner died two years ago...

I am kind of in the same situation only in reverse. My wife of 42 years passed away three years ago. When i did start dating recently, my new partner expressed a concern for my mourning and aftereffects of my wife's death. We have talked about it but not in detail. Honestly, my wife's passing was a blessing--she had been very sick for ten years, and was unable to move or talk the last five months, unaware I was even there. I missed her, the person she used to be, everything we used to do together, and hated living alone...but she was never going to recover or be that person again.

@zonavar68

It is a subject that I would leave her to raise. If she does, show compassion and sympathy, but do not overdo it.

If you really want to initiate the conversation, you could raise the subject of his death obliquely.
Try asking how [or if] her daughter has recovered from the shock of losing her father.
Either she will open up about it or clam up.
How she answers will guide you whether to avoid or pursue the conversation.

I have lost someone in recent years. Sometimes I feel like talking about it; sometimes I don't want to.

They say two years. But we are all very different.
No, let it come from her. Just be ready to listen.

No way did she cause it, I can’t see how you could even consider that.


Her daughters grieve will be there.

Considering your posts here, I'm surprised you're even thinking about trying to be with anyone.. but especially someone like this.

Seems like too many potential problems here with this one, and that's not even taking into consideration she could have knocked someone off.

The weird thing is she's not told you any details about his death. Id have thought that if she was ready for a relationship, she'd have mentioned more than " my ex partner died"

Yes I'm sure she'd like nothing more than talking about the death of her past partner. Sounds like a great plan

If you are going into the relationship with that little trust, dont go there at all..😷

Take out a really large life life insurance policy, and tell her.

See if she gets more excited about dating you.

Wtf 😳

How many women are you dating?

Why would you assume she's a murderer ?

There’s a lot of strange people out there run forest run