dating a woman who's previous partner died two years ago...

Woman is 57 (same age as me) and has an autistic 17 y/o daughter.

Her previous partner died 2 yrs ago.

Should I be concerned if I start dating her (assuming she wants to date me)?

Should I probe for details around her partner's death to make sure she didn't cause it?

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emmasfriend · 46-50, F

@zonavar68

It is a subject that I would leave her to raise. If she does, show compassion and sympathy, but do not overdo it.

If you really want to initiate the conversation, you could raise the subject of his death obliquely.
Try asking how [or if] her daughter has recovered from the shock of losing her father.
Either she will open up about it or clam up.
How she answers will guide you whether to avoid or pursue the conversation.

I have lost someone in recent years. Sometimes I feel like talking about it; sometimes I don't want to.