Found out she has a partner

I guess the question is what are your concerns?

Does the nature of relationship you wish to build require exclusivity? If so, why? Are you afraid of disease, uncertain paternity, embarrassed for others to find out your love is non-traditional, or looking to feel a sense of leadership or ownership in the relationship which might be challenged by another partner?

I am not saying any of those are wrong. But identifying what your exact concerns are could be a good way to self examine if this is a deal breaker or something you can live with.

At the end of the day, relationships are deeply personal. You are not less of a man if you date a polyamorous woman, so long as everyone involved is able to give informed consent. Neither are you a bad person if you feel that you require monogamy to be happy in a relationship.

You have to make sure that things can work for you. And then you make sure things can work for her. If you cannot come to terms, you can part amicably on the understanding that your lives have different paths.

sounds like she's in an open relationship

If you want a commited relationship then you can consider her taken. If you want to be the lover on the side then she's up for it.

It depends on what you want out of this relationship. Just friendship and companionship on occasion? Then it should be OK. Friend with benefits? It could work out. A long-term partnership relationship? Then that seems less likely.

People over complicate things. Simply ask her what her intents are. She’ll give you a straight answer. Then, you just have to decide if you want to play ball.

Assuming you’re single, why wouldn’t you test the waters? You did call her “wonderful” didn’t you? Maybe the sex will be wonderful too. It’d be crazy not to find out.

Unless the second party of their relationship confirms this with you, I would start having dinner with someone else.

She is in an open relationship
Once you both get what you want, go for it

Yeah, you were used! Forget her! No insult. 😊

if you're into cuckoldry then go for it

Well my experience was I reconnected will an old girlfriend (25 years earlier).
We met at a hotel. Went at it like rabbits.
Then all of a sudden she jumps up and gets dressed. I ask ,what’s up? She says I have to get home, I’m married. Blew my mind

Ugh.

Unless that is appealing to you, I would cut my loses and move on. You are going to be wondering and wondering where she is, what she is doing, and how she feels about you.

...and how do you know he is "aware", just because she told you? Maybe look her up and social media. If it says "married", then maybe reach out to him privately and ask. Just say she'd like to go out for dinner, and....

Fuck her and then move on. Or just move on. Either way, do go for anything long term. Unless she swallows and then good luck steppin away. 😂

At best, it's a sticky wicket and I'd want to steer clear of it at all costs... unless of course, you are just out for a "hookup" and nothing else.

The cuck as we call him. Try fcking your date harder, if there is still no reaction then probably they ain't fcking too. Just don't fall into any such traps

I don't go out on dates or enter into relationhips so i've never been in the situation myself.

But to me this just sounds like she was having her cake and eating it, and only now has she told you because guilt has finally caught up with her.

And if she's in an open relationship, then she should have been upfront about that with you from the beginning.

Move on and find someone's who's single.

Leave bro
You do not want this chick

See what happens?

Either way it will not end well. Best to cut your losses and move on. What she is doing to others she will do to you.

I think you are right to be concerned.

Is this a cuckold relationship? Guy lost his drive?

Odd.

Just go with the flow, see where it leads

I would say she is not so wonderful.

Sounds like trouble to me. Unless you're into MFM, I'd bail asap.

Back off