What's the psychology behind parents who brag about their children's achievements to everyone

Many Asians do this. Parents constantly keep pushing their children which is okay, as long as great achievements are recognised along the way. Often this step is passed over. As for why they share it, it’s all about supposed prestige and outdoing other children including friends/extended family or just bragging about how successful they are as parents

The psychology of the parents is that they are insecure people who seek validation about themselves and their parenting by bragging about their kids and making it sound like their kid is better then someone else.

They also criticize their kids and never tell them they are proud of their accomplishments or that they did a good job, but instead admit to their child that they are unsatisfied with them. This encourages stress in the household, and it encourages the child to work extra hard to please said parent. Which makes the parent feel better and feel loved. While the child takes on the workload of supporting a parent socially and emotionally.

Truth is they might love their children very much, but they love the use they get out of their children more rather then actually encouraging and supporting their kids and being kind to them. Some parents can't take care of themselves much less another human being.

Sometimes parents are also purposefully cold, because they think it will build good character. They are afraid of having a child who does not meet their expectations.

They push them through critics as they think it's how they best help them become sucessful, it's a family culture for many Asians, the bragging is because they see their kids as an extension of themselves and their life sucess.

Probably had the same done to them

Projecting, emotionally unavailable/unprepared parents, pride. You name it. It's essentially projecting

Maybe they want to live vicariously through their kids. As if the children represent to other people who the parents are

The parents own insecurities drive this extremely annoying behavior.

My parents smh

Controlling. Telling them to do better, basically for their own needs, not the kid.

Chinese piano player Lang Lang was brutally beaten into practicing piano for years. He is now one of the best!

You really could've done better though 🤨

I am not certain, my kids are smarter than me.

Asian thing...I feel sorry for asian kids... they're not allowed to be slackers. Maybe a cultural thing.

These parents call that "tough love" or think it is some kind of lesson.

No idea what's the psychology behind it. I kinda always thought such parents where chronically grumpy, but if they brag about it with others... 😐

I want to slap them though. They are stealing the praise from an achievement from their own children. 🤬🤬🤬

They sound like very 'Hannibal' parents 🤣

If I had to guess, I'd say they are afraid that if they praise their kids, their egos will get too inflated? Idk.

Survival mechanisms. They praise them to others because they are proud, but don't want to inflate the egos of the child and also want to harden them to the real world of adulthood.


Not that I agree with it, but I understand the logic.

Probably an attempt to make them keep trying to achieve more