What's the psychology behind parents who brag about their children's achievements to everyone

but to their kids' faces they act indifferent or even criticize them (for example "you could have done better")?

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Many Asians do this. Parents constantly keep pushing their children which is okay, as long as great achievements are recognised along the way. Often this step is passed over. As for why they share it, it’s all about supposed prestige and outdoing other children including friends/extended family or just bragging about how successful they are as parents

HannibalAteMeOut · 26-30, F

@BeefySenpie honestly I think it's the same here culturally, and subconsciously they are trying to prove they are good parents since there is some kind of success within the family or kinda living through their children's achievements. Pushing for more is okay if the children are capable but I think they need to hear some words of approvement too.

BeefySenpie · M

@HannibalAteMeOut Couldn’t agree more. It sounds very similar

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@HannibalAteMeOut I agree. My Asian friend only gets critics, he feels worthless in the eyes of the parents and they even compare him with other kids who's "more" successful.

HannibalAteMeOut · 26-30, F

@Queendragonfly yeah like it's some kind of competition...