I feel life has passed me by.

I didn't have a real job until I was 24 because my mental health was that bad. I only really started "normal" life at 27.

I've worked my current job for almost 2 years and I'm studying counselling. Just started dating at 31, had one relationship beforehand. Just started going to the gym properly for a few months.

I'm living with family as the economy sucks/rental market is busted and I just started driving at 31.

It's never too late trust me. We all have our own reasons, make the future what you want it to be. Take small steps, make them achievable, be brave, and you'll get there in your time

I can relate. Not lived with my parents since 18 but lived alone and I'm older than you. Had a lot of setbacks, lost confidence got bad anxiety, had a bad upbringing.
But from expectance, and I am in the process of sorting things out. I'll tell you what I know so far. Time does not slow down it accelerates! If you are 45 now and always putting off things until tomorrow, you'll be 50 in a snap. And as you get older, you'll look older faster too and regret those lost days more. If you just auto-pilot through each day, look into getting some therapy. Or find it out online from You Tube even, or books. If you keep putting off the big steps in life and engross yourself in hobbies, for example, then that is self-sabotage. Look out for it, as it is a false sense of security, masking your focus and wasting real life opportunities. Also, voluntary experience is a good way back into employment and out of the house. A lot of people work from home now to remember, so an admin job could be ideal?

Starting to get fit again is going to give you confidence and make you feel healthier and more upbeat and motivated in the long run. Start with simple doable realistic changes. It only takes a short time to adjust and won't seem daunting.

My therapist recommended me The Chimp Paradox book. Its worth at least looking into, although I do find it a bit hard going, it is making a lot of clarity. If you don't have Audible you can get 1-month free trial plus one free book and thus a free Chimp Paradox. But get ready to take notes as you go through it. This may change your life around for free! ;)

I also recommend starting mindfulness meditations and looking into 'self-acceptance' for yourself. You tube is a good start for both. Or apps like Calm and Headspace, but they require a small subscription, or Smiling minds which is free but probably not as good. If the mindfulness isn't working for you, try a different source until it fits for you, and keep with it. Do it twice a day every day. Also, Reiki is good too, free sessions on YT.

You have plenty of time. Start something small now. Go get a gym membership. Thats what I did. I figured I would feel bad wasting and want to eat better. Its working so far.

I gave up years ago and turned to my oldest friend food. I just thought I look here, get to know someone before they see me.

Perhaps look at it like yesterday is a cancelled cheque but today is cash in the bank. Make a plan to love the woman you see in the mirror and work that plan one day at a time. You’ll feel better about yourself. Maybe consider some volunteer work.

I know… we wake up one day and wonder where the time went. Wishing you well!

You should go back to school, study, get on a diet and exercise program. I'm single I wouldn't have a problem dating you.

I’m sure that you’re lovely and lovable, I know it must seem hard, but don’t lose hope. Work out some things you’d like to achieve and try to set some small steps towards them. 😊

Remember, God has a plan.
My dreams have expired. So, now I have the chance to help other people.
Help others. Get strong, so that you are capable of that.
I am cheering for you.
Shine.

I would love to meet a guy who could see past my weight, maybe a blind guy lol.

We have all missed out on what is in our past, pretending life is binary, full of A or B decisions. But we didn't miss out on just B when we chose A; we also didn't choose C though Z, and another infinite alphabet of letters. @NeuroticByNature has it right, I think. Make a decision tomorrow and see if you like it. There are more than 2 choices, and a lot of us will be cheering for you.

Give your mom a hug for me.

@Fatalice you will have some guys telling you that but I’m not one of those guys I say just be the happiest person you can be because life is too short

Accept your weight and start living your life.

Hi you sound wonderful I wouldn’t love to get to know you
You sound beautiful

You still have that chance, Alice. LOTS of chances. Age, living situation, education, employment history.... those things are all conditions, and have nothing to do with your worth or your attractiveness as a person to a caring human being. Don't put so much emphasis on things.

If you would care to talk with me, I would be honored. 🫂

You know where you can find me.

First of you diet do it because you want to for your health not because of what any guy says a true man will love you for you because beauty fades over years but a beautiful personality will be forever just be yourself

Why not take baby steps ? Everyday make a choice that feels right to your soul

Fat is a vague term. What is your height and weight?

You have fulfilled a wondeful life of being a big women , nothing wrong with that .

It’s never too late.

Look I pretend I'm doing better but I'm not. I've doors thrown shut in my face for as long as I can remember. It is up to each person to find that strength in themself but I believe you can do it. good luck.