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Is it unique with humans

that breasts are erotic?
For a girl, it's something she experiences.
Does a boy really think of a girl's breasts as sensual and sexual unless someone tells him?
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EarthTiger · F
I can only give my female perspective on this. I have always loved breasts since I was a young teenager. I remember stealing a Playboy magazine when I was 16 as I was too young to buy it from the newsagent, I would hide it at the back of my bookshelf and get it out if I wanted to masterbate when no one was home . Then when I turned 18 and moved out of home I could buy all of the boobs magazines from the city sex shops and of course porn videos. I think it’s just a preference but I can see how anyone couldn’t love beautiful soft breasts and nipples 😁
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@EarthTiger Nobody can ever answer the question of why though. I've had so little experience with them sexually (and not seen any naked boobs for nearly 10 years). I read all the responses from people blindly believing it's impossible to not be automatically attracted to boobs without being able to explain why it has to be that way purely objectively.

There are plenty of subjective answers (oh they look nice, feel nice, produce nice reactions in a woman when touched, etc.).

Some might say it's an intrinsic part of "human design'. If so where is the objective scientific evidence and proof?
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
I never got the lesson on how human female breasts are meant to be sexual/erotic. Had zero teaching about anything to do with sex from parents (they divorced when I was 12) or at school, and had no sexual experience until my mid-20's and it was a series of fumbles and mis-steps for quite a few years.

I am fairly certain I was not breast fed as a baby, so I would never have got 'wired' to find breasts sexually attractive. I think they are, but it's not automatic nor do I know what to do if I'm trying to be intimate. Last intimacy of any kind for me was 8 yrs ago when second ex and I were trying to make our daughter (it didn't work and required IVF which also failed then egg donor).

You can ask the same sort of questions about why a woman would think a man's penis is sexually attractive if not conditioned by society to think so. Or why some women think other women are sexually attractive, or some men think other men are sexually attractive. It's societal conditioning mostly.

I lived with my mum after the divorce until I left home in my mid-20's. Mum expressly forbade anything with girls (which didn't matter as I had no interest in girls and really didn't even know what sex was in school or uni) so I probably would have got a tirade of anger if I'd actually been interested in sex and talked about girls or wanted to have girls come over as friends. To me sex was something never to be talked about that only other people did.

My parents are both passed away so can't ask about my early childhood from their perspective, and dad had no contact with me from about age 16 until his death.
Richard65 · M
No, I have friends who aren't particularly interested in breasts (they prefer bottoms). I do love breasts and think they are sexy. I also understand that they are nurturing and not just for sensual attraction. I know women who find breasts sexy. In answer to your question, I can't remember when it was or why I started to see breasts as desirable. I have thought about it, but I think it was a slow realisation through puberty.
WindTherapy · 56-60, M
Well this isn't necessarily just breasts. And I don't think it's limited to humans. In my mind we all have things that we find desirable and like, I know I do. And sometimes I can't really even explain why it attracts me or I find it erotic.

It's spring time and as I look out my home office window I see a flock of turkeys. Watching the tom with his feathers all fanned out on full display. His wattle (red pouch under his beak) flared out in brilliant color. What about it attracts the hen? Must be something about them that makes them desirable.
Maturebate · 70-79, M
I believe we are hard wired to find breasts and buttocks sexually attractive /arousing so we will want to procreate and continue the species. The alpha males will seek out the best breeders and selecting a female with broad hips and breasts will provide the best chance of continuing his line. Well thats evolutionary significant anyway.
Modern man, i am not so sure. He seems terribly confused about his role, about women, and sex.
Young men are not confident about their once expected role of family head, provider, protector and procreator. And at the same time young women are being taught to be more independent on one hand and overtly sexual on the other.
Personally i have always been attracted to breasts. I was breast fed but, not for years like some boys.
I grew up fascinated by and wanting to see bare breasts without much success in that era (1960s.)
I don't think i have changed much 😁
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@Maturebate I'm a zeta male then. Totally at the bottom of the pack.
syfy86 · 51-55, M
I think almost every part of our anatomy can be sensual in addition to its utilitarian function. Some guys are "boob men" while others are ass men. Some guys are a sucker for a woman with nice legs. Some like the womanly curves of hips and backs. Similarly, women might like a guys stomach, or arms, or ass.

I understand why some women say "I don't get it, they're just breasts. Every woman has them." But I also understand how many will reply with "Yeah, but they're also so much more!"

We're all a wonderful combination of things learned and innate, including what we find beautiful and sexy.
DDaverde · 61-69, M
@syfy86 I Agee !!!sir !!
justanotherone · 51-55, M
Bouncing with joy, a pair of delight,
They wiggle and jiggle in morning light.
Playful companions in life's little dance,
Adding a sparkle with every glance.

Cheeky partners in a whimsical scene,
Forever charming, a sight so keen
DDonde · 31-35, M
Does a boy really think of a girl's breasts as sensual and sexual unless someone tells him?
In my experience the answer to this is yes, I was interested before I even knew what they were called. It wasn't about any kind of taboo, just basic instinctual attraction.

My guess is that these things are different from male to male somewhat. Like I'm not attracted to feet at all, yet some men are.
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
My view is that it's not automatic and unless a human is breastfed as a baby, or otherwise educated about breasts being objects of sexual desire, the basic programming never happens.

Breastfeeding embeds the sexualisation deep in long-term memory centres and is how nearly (but not all) children get their basic programming of breasts being something desirable.
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@Berti33 Breastfeeding doesn't sexualise them per-se, but it auto-conditions them to be desirable from birth and something humans want to see and have access to as a comfort source. At some point later on that becomes sexual but I don't know what triggers that.
Berti33 · 41-45, F
@zonavar68 Yes, I suppose you are right. But why that which triggers to feel sexual with breasts, working only with humans!
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@Berti33 the breast I has a great number of sensory endings
robertsnj · 56-60, M
i like the way women react to having them touched. the small pieces, arching her back or craning hr neck when touched--try not to be too x rated on your thread.

in a less sexual they feel nice and warm against my chest / like in a casual hug or something
Berti33 · 41-45, F
@robertsnj... real compliments. 👍🏻
DDaverde · 61-69, M
@robertsnj yesssss!! Agreed!!👍
oldercanuck1 · 70-79, M
back in the day as a young lad ,, they where thought to be the sexual thing that made women beautiful , thank god things have changed since and they are where they should ,, part of person with a brain ,,,,
supersnipe · 61-69, M
We homo sapiens walk upright, so they're on display, so I think that has something to do with it.

And no, I don't think I needed telling 😊
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Waxfoot · 56-60, M
We just love them
Outdoorfreedom · 56-60, M
I think it comes natural to a guy.
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@Outdoorfreedom Only if the guy was breast-fed as a baby - at least that's my view about it. Otherwise there is never any embedding of breasts being nurturing therefore something attractive and desirable.
Fawma123 · 46-50, M
I know breast off of nurturing but they are also sensual and sexy to men and women
RudeBoy1977 · 56-60, M
i'm going with a mix - hiding body parts makes them sexy, so that suggests it's learned, but i gotta think that the fact that enlarged breasts are a secondary sex characteristic unique to post-pubertal female humans makes them likely to be sexualized
RudeBoy1977 · 56-60, M
@Berti33 i've read that most primates view asses as the primary stimulus, but the fact that humans have sex face to face contributed to making chests erotic
Berti33 · 41-45, F
@RudeBoy1977 You mean, face to face sex too unique with human beings. Ooo it's a novel information to me. Tgabk you.
RudeBoy1977 · 56-60, M
@Berti33 at least more common. something to do with changes to the pelvis associated with walking upright
Kiesel · 56-60, M
Beautifully intimate
TahoeTN8 · 51-55, M
To me it came naturally, I adore women’s boobs, and love to caress them many ways, and love to watch her enjoy it. I’ve been known to give a nipplegasm or two. 😉
Bowenw · 61-69, M
I believe they are naturally attractive to males as it tells them the female would be good for feeding his children.
In modern times because they are hidden most of the time they become something men want more.
letshavefun · 51-55, M
I was never taught anything about breasts, but I did start to notice them when I hit puberty and became quite fond of them
Josh1454 · M
It is naturally ingrained in the male and even the female at times. My friend is gay and though he really dislikes the vagina, he loves tits and would play with tits for hours if he could.
Berti33 · 41-45, F
@Josh1454... Wow...tits being played long hours.. wow it is something incredible...
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@Josh1454 For me it's not naturally ingrained - or doesn't seem to be. My brain blocks all sensations of attraction so I don't know what's legit and what isn't.
hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M
Humans have a natural fascination with the 'other'. She has what he doesn't and he has what she doesn't.
dancingtongue · 80-89, M
It is the old story of the grass being greener when it is denied. Society largely determines what is sexy by what it makes forbidden. People think of nudity as being sexually driven and depraved, but the only depraved you will usually find are the clothed gawkers on the edge. Porn failed to make it mainstream when it no longer became illegal and was available on demand.
What do you expect happens when you go around teaching people that certain parts of their anatomy are inappropriate and need to be hidden away from people???

People go after the forbidden fruit, that's what happens...
Berti33 · 41-45, F
@HootyTheNightOwl.. Do you suppose, for it's taught forbidden to touch or inappropriate to keep them bared, the breasts are now considered sexual?
@Berti33 It would make sense and explain some people's attitude towards mothers breastfeeding their baby in public - even though feeding babies is the whole reason why we have breasts in the first place.
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Josh1454 · M
@zonavar68 It’s very true. They generally see a lack of interest in those that were bottle fed.
Berti33 · 41-45, F
@Josh1454 you agree that, the fun or sexual encgantment with breasts is unique with humans not with any other mammals.
Josh1454 · M
@Berti33 it is. Most other animals don’t actually have breasts the way most women do. If you look at female apes, they’re built similarly to males.
From 9 years old.....on. YOU BET WE DO.
Teslin · M
That is a great question @Berti33 !!
In societies were nudity is an everyday, normal way of life, probably not !!
Berti33 · 41-45, F
@Teslin.. Do you mean, nudists doesn't find breasts sexual?
Teslin · M
@Berti33 No, that's not what I mean. I believe it is a societal thing.
Berti33 · 41-45, F
@Teslin I brlieve man, I mean homo sapians superion in that wsy too
Northwest · M
I didn't need anyone to tell teach me. I started to notice breasts when I hit puberty.
ronisme1 · 61-69, M
Yes, they are sexy
ronisme1 · 61-69, M
@Berti33 i dont know but i would say yes
Berti33 · 41-45, F
@ronisme1 which other species of animal you knowing , the males of them attracted to the female's udders?
ronisme1 · 61-69, M
@Berti33 i dont know of any
@zonavar68 yea, you have already done that in your opinion. Why here again?
Berti33 · 41-45, F
@zonavar68 Seems, you had been to a time period you loved breasts for they look good to see and feel good to touch.. But didn't you feel those " good to see" and "good to touch abd feel" pairs are stimulating you sexually at some point of your life?
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@Berti33 Not really. I mean they're just 'things' like all other things. I get they have a functional purpose (breastfeeding of babies) but as for the rest of it, I don't have that kind of 'conditioning' or 'training' in life.
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Bilboes · 31-35, F
I mean, do I even need to comment on this? Maybe I should ask to Sigmund Freud
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@Bilboes if you blindly accept how you've been conditioned then sure go right ahead.
virgin888 · 41-45, M
im obssessed
wudifu · 46-50, M
Men and boys love the female body.....thats why its so hard for us to resist it
wudifu · 46-50, M
@Berti33 oh....not sure.....i know men ( human ) love sucking and playing with them
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@wudifu the question is why though. It seems like a difficult question to answer objectively for most.
wudifu · 46-50, M
@zonavar68 i think men just want to make the female happy
vetguy1991 · 51-55, M
Ivakways,have
FeetAreFantastic · 41-45, MVIP
I think boobs being erotic is uniquely human yes. Because actually humans are the only mammals who have permanently visible breasts. All other species only grow bigger breasts during the pregnancy and nurturing period. So there's probably some evolutionary advantage of displaying them so proudly.
Berti33 · 41-45, F
Only with some humans? Why?
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@Berti33 The question is why is it considered 'automatic' when it's not (in my opinion) because it's 'learnt behaviour' (again in my view).
MichaelT · 41-45, M
Different people find different parts sensual or erotic
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
Actually that even depends upon which humans.
SW-User
LOL what everyone seems to be forgetting here is that the question was
Is it unique WITH HUMANS that breasts are erotic?

And I need to ask, "How the hell are we supposed to know what Chimps, etc. think???"

😂
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pdockal · 56-60, M
@SW-User

That's easy ... do they play with each others nipples erotically ... if yes then they are like us

We need an animal behaviorist to come in as they should know
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@SW-User All animals 'condition' their young from birth on the ways of the world from their species perspective. We humans are animals too (mammals in fact) so we do it too.
pdockal · 56-60, M
Hell yes they are !
Peter85 · 41-45, M
Breasts are my obsession
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
In most other primates, breasts only present themselves when the female is in estrous. Humans are rare in females presenting breasts all the time.
Subsumedpat · 41-45, M
We instinctively sexualize them.
Subsumedpat · 41-45, M
@zonavar68 Who is not breast fed,
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@Subsumedpat Lots more than you think. I am of the view that unless it's due to my introverted neuro-divergent spicy personality then I wasn't breast fed as I have zero intrinsic sexual attraction because my brain is configured to block/suppress/ignore/delete any sensations or feelings of attraction. Doesn't help that my two actual relationships resulted in disastrous breakups leading me to feel I'm totally inadequate in that space and should just avoid trying to ever go there again.
Subsumedpat · 41-45, M
@zonavar68 A lot of things effect us from times we can't even remember I guess.
Shakil · 31-35, M
Breasts are most sensual things to a man . Be sure about it.
romell · 51-55, M
Guess no ody told me anything just rolled over with age into them breasts
I was born with a tit in my mouth,,I was never weened ,
Berti33 · 41-45, F
@jackrabbit10... Wow, you lucky.
May be we could talk more... if you don't mind😀
@Berti33 be glad to thats why we are hear,
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Berti33 · 41-45, F
I think only with human beings, breasts of the females got erotic sensitivity
romell · 51-55, M
Since time immemorial breasts have excited men no men had to be given lessons on it was just natural instinct
Berti33 · 41-45, F
@romell.. All mammals have breasts or teets to feed the infants. In any mammal other an the female of man, the males consider the breasts of their counterpart, as sexual?
romell · 51-55, M
@Berti33 I don't think so ..as guess they aren't as pronounced as homosapiens
zonavar68 · 56-60, M
@Berti33 Yet nobody can explain why? If it's 'built-in programming' where is that programming and what creates it?

 
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