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Is there ever an excuse to cheat

On your wife/husband?
I'd say if you are in an abusive relationship which you're unable to leave for one reason or another then cheating is justified.
jim44444 · 70-79, M
@Pikachu Wow @Jenni855 asked a hypothetical question to which you gave a hypothetical answer. And then the angry mob with their torches and pitchforks came hunting for you.

You are right in your scenario because it is not cheating. The contract or the vows (oh the holy [b]VOWS[/b]) was broken and rendered null and void by the abuser. Those who try to heap shame on the abused only wish to deny joy and happiness to another human being. They are worse than the abusers.
How is that for a closed minded, pig headed arguement?
@jim44444 Just for the sake of clarification - I was not heaping abuse or shame - just pointing out that the two best ways to get yourself killed in an abusive relationship are: 1) Leaving and 2) Loving someone else.
jim44444 · 70-79, M
@Mamapolo2016 I know. However I would contend the best way to get yourself killed in an abusive relationship is to stay.
Yes my reply was deliberately over the top. This question and its variations appear frequently on social media and woe to those that say extramarital sex is justifiable. The problem exists at the relationship level and the question can only be answered within the relationship. No outsider can know the variables nor the best answer. It does not take a lot of thought to come up with many scenarios where extramarital sex could be justified. But it can only be justified or not by the people involved. The rest of us are just uninformed observers looking for a bit of entertainment.
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I would say generally no, but i remember when my sister was married suffering long term abuse and she couldn't get away, she met a guy who helped her and ended up marrying him, so there was a time where she was with him and her husband didn't know. But that was only to save her and her kids beatings.
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No. Communicate, communicate, communicate, and when you're done talking, communicate that.
english · 56-60, M
i think its about time we realised we are capable of caring for more than just one person, and that we were never meant to monogamous ,you cant ask for better data then state of marriage to day, the chances of you having a lifetime relationship are so miniscule its a joke ,then when it does nt happen people are devastated. its a vicious cycle.; just sayin 😕
EmilyEdith · 56-60, F
@english Everything changes all the time, it feels impossible to promise anyone you won't too
english · 56-60, M
@EmilyEdith i dont think people set out intentionally to cheat most of the time,there arfe always exceptions,but people are tired denying the feelings they have for more than one person men and women alike. 😕
luv2fish · 61-69, M
When one absolutely refuses to have sex. Why should the other be denied? Some people may not feel the need, but why should the other suffer. And the one that refuses to "put out" can't complain when their partner gets it somewhere else. I lived in a nearly sexless marriage for 25 years. Then I found out mose women do actually do enjoy sex.
Loads of excuses - but none that are credible.
realrare · 51-55, F
Many people try to justify their actions when they know they are wrong. Leaving an unhappy, unsustaining relationship is the best action. Vows are supposed to have meaning. What is the situation you are referring to, may I ask?

I have heard of people who have terminal spouses or comatose spouses who consider cheating. Some people with jailed spouses do. Some who have spouses who are impotent or not interested in sex ie sexless relationships might. I suppose people will do what they want.
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HannahSky · F
People do it. They don't need an excuse.
redredred · M
I would estimate that there are at least 1.2 million such excuses. Actual valid justifications are much more rare. Although, in my view revenge cheating on a cheating spouse might be pretty easy to excuse.
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330GTC · 56-60, M
When my 1st wife and I separated she found a boyfriend before I found a girlfriend...so my answer is only if you are legitimately separated.
Nobody37 · 31-35, F
There are explanations, but not excuses. People [i]always[/i] have the choice to decide what to do.
EmilyEdith · 56-60, F
Oh, we can think up lots of great reasons to do that.😑

It's just easier now.
Faust76 · 46-50, M
...when you can't find matching underwear?

I mean, you said "[b]excuse[/b]".
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
You found out they’ve been cheating, maybe.
Mikado · 46-50, F
No! Just leave if you’re that unhappy
alan20 · M
An excuse yes. A sensible reason no.
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Yes sometimes there is
bigryand · 31-35, M
Chevy454 · 46-50, M
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luv2fish · 61-69, M
@Fairydust Hmm.. you haven't met my ex. Forced zero sex, of course people will wonder.
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Northerner · 70-79, M
ViciDraco · 36-40, M
No. Gotta communicate
Not unless you can call it a need
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