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I called my ex after a 3 month breakup please dont give up reading x

He spoke to me he was ok but kept reminding me that it was me that split with him. Then after me trying to sort things out between us he told me he had met and slept with someone two weeks ago and is dating her. I told him I still loved him and wanted him back. He said it's not that easy & I get it.... but i felt he didn't want me thats why I split with him. He's turned the table and said I should have called sooner I did but he didn't say he wanted me back. The call ended with him saying he would call me tomorrow night. I'm scared to pick up the phone because he may choose to keep dating the new woman. I get the ferling he's playing with my emotions. This is the short version sorry.
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KaiserSolze · 46-50, F
He's punishing you for dumping him. Making himself seem desired by having another woman so you want him more and pulling away so you chase him.

It's a combination of "push me pull me" "stone walling" "the blame game" and "triangulation"

Verdict: move on.
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cutiepi22 · F
@KaiserSolze you right he pulled out all my emotion tonight. I was a mess. I knew he was doing it he's insecure regarding relationships. He wants to hear I love him but admits he finds it difficult to express.
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KaiserSolze · 46-50, F
@cutiepi22 he's not insecure. Insecure people are not master manipulators because they're insecure and lack confidence.

This guy is a master manipulator. He hasn't got an insecure bone in his body.
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cutiepi22 · F
@KaiserSolze omg I shiver now at the hell I went through with him ☠ Thanks I believe your right.
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BeefySenpie · M
Why do women chase men that don't care about them, then whine when they get hurt 🤔
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cutiepi22 · F
@LyricalOne Thanks I'm sure you are right. He was the man of my dreams but it was all one sided eventually. Or perhaps longer than I truly realised.
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LyricalOne · F
@cutiepi22 Sounds like you might be in love with the man you want him to be rather than the man he actually is.
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cutiepi22 · F
@LyricalOne This is also possible maybe thats why so much conflict. My head is really messed up and I'm drained.
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yeronlyman · 51-55, M
Relationship ending is hard and there is no simple answer.... we don’t know the particulars. We want to empathise with you, understanding your predicament, but that doesn’t make our opinions right.

It may be best to occupy your mind with something else and move forward with your life. Time will ease the pain to some degree

Peace
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cutiepi22 · F
@yeronlyman all makes sense I just don't know if I have the strength to ignore his call tomorrow. I asked when he was calling and he said after the football. Another stab in second place it's not even his team that's playing. I can't believe it all.
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yeronlyman · 51-55, M
@cutiepi22 just text him and tell him not to worry about calling...

if he’s watching a football match it’s not a competition just a prearranged activity
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cutiepi22 · F
@yeronlyman The game is on his tv he's watching alone. He used to chst during games. Anyway I'm driving myself mad analyzing.
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PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F
He got over that quickly if you ask me and slept with someone else way too quickly but that’s just me.
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cutiepi22 · F
@PaleandPolluted That's good I'm glad you have that In your life. Yes I didn't but he said I was over reacting I began to doubt myself. Looks like everyone thinks the same I must sort my head out. Thanks
Its really difficult to explain in text it's complicated . Then again it might be simple ....He's done with me.
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PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F
He might think you were in his head just like my ex did when I found out he was watching porn everyday. They are obviously going to make it look like it’s you overreacting 😡@cutiepi22
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cutiepi22 · F
@PaleandPolluted Makes you wonder if the can lie so easily will they always be that way and never commit. Maybe the next woman is a victim to who can tell. It is odd that as soon as he inherited money things got strange but he put it down to his father's death a few months ago. So no me and no Dad.
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cutiepi22 · F
He phoned me and said his heart says he wants me but his brain says something different. I wonder what Brain. It's over I didn't act emotional and he commented in that. He said he hasn't made any decisions. I said you just did. I'm never looking back he was toxic ☠
I was in love with who I thought he was not the unmasked version.
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MisterGrey · 41-45, M
Do you think maybe the feeling of rejection is making you want to win him back all the more?
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cutiepi22 · F
@MisterGrey I thought there was some breakdown in communication and I wanted to try to fix it. I felt he was pulling away from commitment. I want to win him back but ive told him I only want him back if he says he loves me. He has said for years he has trust issues from the past.
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SW-User
If he isn't choosing you now he is choosing the other woman?
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cutiepi22 · F
@SW-User I said that very sentence to him and he said stop assuming things. I always do that apparently!
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SW-User
@cutiepi22 you're not assuming anything he's mad cuz you scored a bullseye and he knows it...
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cutiepi22 · F
@SW-User He says he needs time to think things over. I said 6years v 2 weeks & He said it's because he doesn't want to risk another breakup with me. I came straight on here after I spoke to him. I'm still trying to figure it all out. He was acting like he was sad and saying if I had said something sooner he thought it was all over. I was in hospital for 3 weeks when we split. I'm starting to think he was acting.
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HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F
Why would you want him back if he makes you feel unwanted?

You don’t need to answer, just think about it. Hugs
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SW-User
I'd try my best to move on, and not answer because he's with someone else
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cutiepi22 · F
@SW-User I know thats the sensible thing I have thought of that.I just know I'll pic up out of curiosity and my love was real for him. I'm not sure I really knew him.
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cutiepi22 · F
@Bootsiebaby Good for you & your town 💞 maybe I'll move there.
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LyricalOne · F
Sounds like he still doesn’t want you. Move on.
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cutiepi22 · F
I can't give a best answer to this as everyone has been great so best answer to all. I'm sure not many people care about BA much tbh.
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Dateless · 31-35, M
You’re old as hell still dating 😂
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cutiepi22 · F
@Dateless cheers he's older than me. Be careful when you mock. Karma can be as cruel as you
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