I Am A Strict Mom

@RedWidow: And even in those awkward transitional years sometimes it's the most childish and embarrassing punishments that effect the biggest changes.

@margaretv Definitely you should!

@Dreammmer: I am sorry having rules and consequences is the basic foundation of any and all societies .. .. Teaching our children a sound understanding of this is one of the best gifts a parent can give their children .. .. You may think you don't do this with your children but if you closley examine it you will find it is there .. .. The rules may be presented as your expectation and the consequences may be your disappointment, but rules and consequences are there .. .. ..

@Pop0159: Society is build upon rules and consequences!

@Kathryn05: totaly agree ...

when I read my lost it could bave been confusing .. ..

I was sorry that @Dreammmer: did not agree that using rules and consequences was siu d parenting .. that ould have been conveyed better .. ..

@Kathryn05: well it's really a choice of our rules and consequences as parents .. Or ... the rules and consequences of others like a appartment manager or mortage company .. .. the choice was to stay home enjoying our support and the beneifits of them or move out on their own and be responsible for supporting themselves .. ..

@Pop0159: Yep. Most girls that age would prefer the understanding of their parents I think

@Kathryn05: yes yey like the security of the arrangement dispite it's less pleasent moments .. .. However a parents job is to prepare their children to live on their own and support themselves .. .. When they are ready they make the move .. ..

@beckychandler: the longest grounding I got was seven weeks

@beckychandler: This is very true at that age you should be mature enough to behave and follow the rules of the home if not there is the door you're free to live on your own. If you want to live at home rent-free and enjoying your parents support than you'll do them the courtesy of following the simple rules they have for you. If you don't and don't want to move out then childish punishments will still be used.

My sisters and I had our parents pay for our college education but if we wanted to live on our own we had to pay for that. We all decided the better option was to live at home and save our money. Sure the rules were not always easy but it was worth it and I think it paid off in the end.

@beckychandler: I've found talking to other mom's my age that for those of us who had strict proper parents at home we all agreed that while the punishment would be worse as an older girl better that then having to be cut off. Thankfully most girls that age are pretty well behaved :)

@Pherick: I have not faced that yet -- but my assumption is that as adults living in my home they would not want to be get the childish punishments which were appropriate when they were children so they would either straighten up and not act like children or find the door. They would only have three options.

My bigger hope is that I will raised them well enough the issue will not come up at all!!!

@beckychandler: That was how it was for me Becky the rules were clear as were the consequences. So when I was a young woman my choices were behave and follow the rules and get a rent-free place to stay, or disobey like a child and be punished like one or option three was to leave via the door and live on my own.

@Fivehole350: what if they can't and they are children?

Personally - My rules are pretty simple. Be respectful and come home at decent hour. If your not working, in school, or trying to "better yourself" then you are not lounging rent free at my place. Parents and teens, or 20's, are not suppose to agree on everything, it's natural.

@EatingCereal: A child that CAN'T follow the rules???? Unless you are talking about a child with mental impairments (for whom the rules are, of course, adjusted accordingly)they will receive the appropriate childish punishment -- whether it be spanking (which we do as a FIRST RESORT), grounding, etc.

@Dreammmer: Look, if I rent a house I have to follow the landlord's rules, if I live in your house I have to follow your rules. Why is this such a difficult concept for you?

@beckychandler: its not difficult,its wrong and bad.Simple as that.
Your comparison doesn't convince at all. Children are not adults and parenting is much more than setting up rules.

@Dreammmer: Children don't stay children, so why not prepare them for what they will face in adulthood? Being a good parent is not only about setting rules, of course, but they are an important part of parenting.

@Mindy1976: I am to blame because I thought I put it in the wrong place --the one about being too old for a spanking. I copied and deleted it and pasted up above.

@beckychandler: or pasted below -- I am confused -- I thought I put it in the right place anyway 🙃

@beckychandler: Don't worry about it 😄