I Am A Strict Mom

@Dreammmer: They aren't oppressed and manipulated. They can negotiate rules with us, but in the end there are certain things I expect of my eldest as an adult living with us rent free.

@Mindy1976: Rules are important, no question about it. But as children grow older they need to have a say also and the rules need to change. If all that you can bring up to convince your children to abide by your rules is consequences, you produce manipulators and you convey that you dont trust their opinion and their ability to understand rules. As a parent I dont need to threaten consequences, bc at that point you have given up and have admitted your insecurity and weakness.

@Dreammmer: Look, if I rent a house I have to follow the landlord's rules, if I live in your house I have to follow your rules. Why is this such a difficult concept for you?

@beckychandler: its not difficult,its wrong and bad.Simple as that.
Your comparison doesn't convince at all. Children are not adults and parenting is much more than setting up rules.

@Dreammmer: Children don't stay children, so why not prepare them for what they will face in adulthood? Being a good parent is not only about setting rules, of course, but they are an important part of parenting.