I Am A Strict Mom

Yeah because they are young. They don't always fully understand the consequences of moving out. @Pop0159:

@Iamnolongerhere: Well I am not sure they really understand that they are in charge whether they get spanked or not. I mean the parents only react to there actions. So if they do not want to get spanked well then follow the rules. Well I think a sore bum would be better than paying bills. But I guess they also agreed a spanking would be better after living on their own for a bit and then moving back home.

@Pop0159: Are you sure they chose the rules over freedom or was it more a choice of free rent vs having to afford their own place? ;)

@Kathryn05: Well well off course free rent was part of it. Well maybe you never know maybe they had to pay rent. Sorry just adding my two cents.

They will likely never understand many things until they have experienced them for themselves. You have to allow them some freedom to make their own choices. And I think when they respect you they will more than likely follow your rules. At least they will do so with ease. It is good to have a good relationship with your kids. If you tell them to follow the rules or get out they will probably resent you even if it is your house. They know it is your house. It just that it is their life. What rules do they not follow at home if I may ask? @Updown2020:

I don't understand when you say "free rent". They are children. @updown2020:

@Iamnolongerhere: Oh I was just saying some people move out because the do not want to get spanked and more or tired of getting spanked but I am sure they are only getting spanked for not following the house rules.

@Iamnolongerhere: Well no if they move out they have to pay rent or a mortgage. But if they move back home they may not have to pay rent (room and board).

I meant to say that they are children. They can't get full time work until they graduate from high school and even then they may not earn much at first. @updown2020:

@Iamnolongerhere: Well okay young adults not children.

@updown2020: They react to your reactions too. They react to your parenting style such as getting spanked for breaking a rule.

@Iamnolongerhere: Well true but if they do not want to be spanked then follow the rules no?

The person who wrote this post doesn't come off to me as a parent whose household is under control. It comes off to me as if she is defending herself of her right to inforce the rules how she so chooses and it doesn't matter what anyone else including her children think except that she did took the time to post it. It is a very short post.@updown2020:

@Iamnolongerhere: The no I have been talking to the author privately. And her house is in control and well run. I think she was just writing how things are in her house.

I wanted to share this meme I found and I do understand. @updown2020:
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@Iamnolongerhere: thank you for your comments and interest .. you have alot to say about this and I will try to reply on most .. .. My children were taught to investigate and learn about things before making a choice or decision .. I assure you they understood many of the requirements, benefits, struggles, and consequences of moving out on their own before they ever faced the choice .. .. ..

We not only allowed but encouraged our chikdren to make decisions on their own .. .. They also understiod that with any decision their are consequences, often they are very good but sometimes they are not .. .. we resoected them and they respected us .. for the most part life was smooth and without issues .. well with teenagers their were always issues just not behavioural issues .. ..

It was never follow the rules or get out .. .. it was if you don't follow the rules .. well really when you don't follow the rules there will be consequences .. .. they knew that if they did not agree with that they could move out, support themselves, and follow the rules of others like an apartment complex or employer .. ..

The rules they had issues with were normal things like lying, breaking kerfew, being rude and disrespectful, not doing chores, my youngest was big on not cleaning her room .. ..

"Free Rent" First nothing is free and my chikdren did chores and helped out around the house, they earned money for a pager or cell phone and their first car .. .. Living at home was more then just a roof over their heads, it was clothing, food, money, tuition, mental support and so on .. ..

I worked full time my seniour year of high school .. .. My son had a friend who moved out at 16 because of things at home .. .. he had some help but for the most part took care of himself .. .. ..

I see the origional post more as a parent who embraces this logic looking for views from others (yours included) more then trying to justify her own situtation or actions .. .. ..

I hope this covered all of your points and questions .. .. ..

@Kathryn05: well it's really a choice of our rules and consequences as parents .. Or ... the rules and consequences of others like a appartment manager or mortage company .. .. the choice was to stay home enjoying our support and the beneifits of them or move out on their own and be responsible for supporting themselves .. ..

@Pop0159: Yep. Most girls that age would prefer the understanding of their parents I think

@Kathryn05: yes yey like the security of the arrangement dispite it's less pleasent moments .. .. However a parents job is to prepare their children to live on their own and support themselves .. .. When they are ready they make the move .. ..