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Just gonna write it all out & get a different perspective...

The psychiatric hospital just offered me a job. Housekeeping. But it's a state job so that means much more money & better benefits.
My current job pays way less with fewer benefits but it's what I love to do, hands on with dementia patients.
So do I go with the higher pay & possible unhappiness or do I stay with what I love??
I'm on meds myself so I always have to consider my own mental wellbeing when accepting job offers.
I really really need the money & stability of the hospital position.
Gaaahhhh I hate major decisions....
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Just my personal opinion. I wouldn't dare leave the job you love. I know a lady in her 50s that does housekeeping and I tell you it's back breaking and the older she gets the harder it is on her body and her bones and it's really killing her. I feel like God has you right where he wants you, for good reason. I wouldn't dare switch. You couldn't pay me to switch if I were you. The benefits may be good but boy it's going to play wear and tear on your body and you'll suffer later. More money and benefits sure won't do any good if your body is broken down day after day. That's hard work and you've worked too hard to get where you're at, studies and all. To me you answered your own question when you talked about how much you love your job. How many people can say that and they have raised the retirement age so if you got into a backbreaking job and that is hard cuz I've done it and don't like it, you will have left the job you love.
I think I may have told you why I think what I do. I didn't go into great detail but my friend who is like 56, is a very strong person but her housekeeping has just destroyed her body and she said I wish to God I could get out of this profession but it's the only thing I know. Ultimately go with your gut because nobody can really tell you what to do. We can just suggest. You have to do what you think is right for you.
Degbeme · 70-79, M
I personally would take the state job, if not for more pay, but the benefits. But that is just me, you may at some point be offered something at the hospital that is more to your liking. Now this is just my two cents. You go with what you feel comfortable with and I wish you all the best.
That’s such a heavy decision, and it makes complete sense that you’re torn. Both options matter for really real reasons. Loving your work—especially work that meaningful—is huge, and so is needing financial stability and benefits, especially when you’re also protecting your own mental health. There’s no selfish or wrong choice here.

I hear how much pressure you’re under, and I’m really proud of you for being thoughtful about what you need long-term, not just emotionally but practically too. Whatever you decide doesn’t define you or lock you in forever—you’re allowed to choose what helps you survive right now.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
If it was me I would stick with what I love.
I've had a lifetime of trying to push myself into jobs I know I would hate, but that's me.
Can you make it on your current salary? will you have opportunity to get overtime?
I guess I would think about that as well.
@Justmeraeagain I agree and she may be able to get a promotion later. The job she has now is more stable and there will always be a need for her services.
Tumbleweed · F
@WoWgirll The only drugs I'm on are prescribed by my doctor so I'm fine with that. I don't even smoke weed.
WoWgirll · 36-40, F
@Tumbleweed then your good lol
Boeing · 36-40
Okay stop seeing the decision in a stressful manner and see it as you are offered two gifts, and one gift has more money and benefits and the other gift has you doing work that you love. Like, you are blessed either way! Now receive the blessing you want more, and don't limit yourself. It's exciting :)
Tumbleweed · F
@Boeing 🫂
Pretzel · 70-79, M
take the state job.
better pay/benefits.
you can't afford to do the job you love - and if I remember some places didn't bother to pay you, right?

you don't sign a contract - if you can't stand the job then you can always give notice - I bet your current employer is hurting for workers and wouldl love to take you back - if not - somebody else will.
Tumbleweed · F
@Pretzel True!!
@Pretzel I think that's a foolish move. You don't know that she'll be able to find another job if she doesn't like that one and it's going to really be hard on her body the older she gets. With jobs being scarce, nobody knows if she'll be able to get something else if she doesn't like the housekeeping job. That's not a guarantee and that's not secure. She can't afford to do a backbreaking job either. She's worked too hard to get where she's at. She's already on meds.
ineedadrink · 56-60, M
I'm a big fan of benefits, advise going with tge state job if you can cope.
I would take the state job, and if I didn't like it, I would go back to doing what I love.
pdockal · 56-60, M
Decisions
Decisions
Decisions
Lilnonames · F
@pdockal stay in bed today ,worry monday😊
pdockal · 56-60, M
@Lilnonames

It's that kinda day
WoWgirll · 36-40, F
Non for profit is better for short term. $ wise it can double
Lilnonames · F
ask if you can do a month trial,if you dont like have the option to return to old job
Tumbleweed · F
@Lilnonames Great idea!!! Thank you!!

 
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