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AITAH - Uncle Passed tragically I spoke to the press

So, my uncle passed away tragically and suddenly. He was really influential in our community and had a lot of friends.

I saw a reporter, who is also an old college friend of mine, asking for information in a FB group about his impact within the community to write a tribute article as he was a longtime educator. I responded to him letting know how great of a person the man he was referring to was and that he was in fact my uncle…the reporter (my friend) said he really just didn’t have a lot of info and would be so grateful if I could help him get some quotes and photos messages from the community for the article.

So I started reaching out to some other well known figures in our community like the principal of his school where he worked, the bike shop where he had lots of friends etc and they were all thrilled to provide quotes to the paper and photos and stuff.

When I asked my aunt about it and said they were working on a tribute live peice, was there anything we could add from our side of the family and I let her know that I tried to connect the paper to the right people so they could write an informed article on how amazing he was…

she was honestly really upset about it and I also got a text from my dad just angry that I could’ve done that to their family.

I was really just trying to honor and remember my uncle. I thought he would’ve wanted it. The article is going to be about really truly about how amazing of a person he was and how much he will be missed, how big of an impact he had on the community. AITA? What do I do? 😭
BlueVeins · 22-25
You didn't do anything wrong, but imo you should apologize anyway. They're very sensitive right now, emotions are weird sometimes. Acknowledge their feelings, acknowledge that you ultimately did hurt them. Give 'em time to get over it; I'm sure they'll come to their senses.
You are fine.

They are shocked & mad he's dead and a tribute story, like an obit, is a hard wake-up call.

You are getting the best reactions when people have not yet massaged their memories.

Good for you.
@Brassm0nk3y If anything I write helps you, great!

But they have to come around on the article, because it will be a precious momento of his life. They will ultimately treasure it if it's done right.
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
@SomeMichGuy I think so too, I just can’t understand how they could be so mad. But I’m trying to understand. I think it’ll be lovely with everyone’s quotes in there. Thank you for the encouragement. Grateful for you.
@Brassm0nk3y Again, thanks; and if anything I say helps, I am honored. Take care.
...and sorry for the loss of an amazing guy in your life, in your family's life, in your community's life.
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
@SomeMichGuy that is so sweet aw, he was a special guy. He was killed after being hit by a car while road cycling. A science teacher and really funny, empathetic caring guy who was friends with anyone he met. Thank you again.
@Brassm0nk3y A science teacher?! An even greater loss!
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
@SomeMichGuy thank you, yes really truly. ❤🙏
There is a certain ranking of ownership of the deceased during the funeral stage.

You did nothing wrong. It would’ve been good to check with the widow or your father.

People are weird.
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
@Mamapolo2016 thank you so much for this perspective. I never thought of it that way. Hope you’re doing splendid MP! ❤
@Brassm0nk3y I am as well as can be expected. And I’m glad.
BuzzedLightyear · 61-69
Feelings are strong when the pain is fresh. You did nothing wrong. Keep your heart in love and no one can rightly blame you for anything.
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
@BuzzedLightyear thank you so so much, appreciate this greatly.
HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F
I don’t understand why they were upset, but regardless you are NTAH. You had good intentions.
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
@HeavenBesideYou I really was trying to do the right thing. Thank you so much appreciate this. ❤
SJones48 · 41-45, M
You did what you thought was the right thing
SJones48 · 41-45, M
@Brassm0nk3y You’re welcome and don’t feel bad
Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
@SJones48 Thank you so much for the encouragement
SJones48 · 41-45, M
@Brassm0nk3y You’re welcome
smiler2012 · 61-69
[@brassmonk3y] 😞my deepest sympathy on your loss
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Brassm0nk3y · 36-40, F
@ViciDraco Thank you I think you’re right ❤

 
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