Your thoughts? Right or wrong?

Ok, so my friend is divorced and when their daughter goes over her father's house she says he is always playing pool with his friends, or darts and they are drinking and being really loud. Plus he has her to stay in her room.

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Gusman · 61-69, M

Not right.
Sounds like his daughter is a hinderance to his lifestyle and he really does not want her there.
She has to stay in her room?
This needs to change.
What does the daughter think of this situation? Does she enjoy going there?
Discuss with your friend the emotional damage being inflicted on her daughter.
Get a court order if necessary to stop the visitations.

ToSirwithLove · 31-35, F

@Gusman She does not like it, she says she just want to be with her dad, but he does not pay attention to her.

Gusman · 61-69, M

@ToSirwithLove A really sad situation.
Someone needs to take the father aside and have a serious talk with him.
Precious years are being lost because he will not grow out of his teenage persona.
Are your friend and him on friendly terms?
Can she have a discussion with him?
Would he listen and comprehend the enormity of such a discussion?
The most important person here is the daughter, she has no control here.
It is up to the adults to ensure her emotional wellbeing.

BlueVeins · 22-25

I can understand if that happens sometimes, but if this is most nights, he just shouldn't have custody. That's no way to raise a child, locking her up in the same room day in and day out.

smiler2012 · 56-60

{@tosirwithlove ] no that is wrong under those circumstances why invite his daughter over . if he invites her over it should be be father / daughter time

Spoiledbrat · F

That's a hard one. Adults have to have adult time. Maybe he could hang out every other weekend so he can make time for her too.

Stopmakingsense · 56-60, F

Sounds typical. My daughter saw a lot of bars, darts, and Hooter's restaurants, too. Her Dad resented even that. So did all the men. And I was never safe. Teams of them showed up at my home and snooped around-. Nurses from the prison in town threatened me and denanded my child's shot records, while openly dating my"husband"-. Murka is a bit sexist about raising kids.
Can I say such popular things are perhaps not right? Not in person! But it's wrong.

MrBrownstone · 46-50, M

Right

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