I’m asking for a friend.... “I’m single” Would it be wrong to separate from your partner so they can get themselves together.

You cannot force somebody to change and expect them to like it. You need to move on and find whoever it is that you are looking for.

My ex sister in law kicked her husband out. She felt he would think about things and come crawling back with a better life plan. He fell in love about 3 weeks out. They both drank a lot but she worked everyday. And my wife's brother eventually remarried. My sister in law and I both lived in Louisville,my before moving to Dallas and marrying a brother and sister we were pretty close. But I offended her one time apologized once. She didn't accept it and haven't talked to her since. So the point is not her so much but some people tend to gravitate to a certain type. He found someone else that supported him probably thinking she could change him. She was an even heavier drinker but held it well. He had a severe head injury in high school and couldn't hold his booze at all. So it's hard to tell. If he finds someone else could you handle that easy enough? Maybe therapy is an option?(I'm not much on psychologists at all) just a thought. Either way it won't be easy I guess. It's hard to be with someone for an extended period and not feel a loss. I'm probably no help at all. But I know the feeling and for my wife retained a close relationship with an ex fiancee. I didn't know the depth of it for 37 years. I'm still with her but although she claims it was plutonic there are too many lies, although most aren't spoken she just let me believe she was with girlfriends or just running an errand sometimes till 3 or 4a.m.
Man read I the classic blond or what lol. Although wr live together I never regained an intimacy with her and didn't care to she wasn't a good wife that way by her own admission. I was always wanting. Key word- was.I don't try hard to find someone but in my little mind feel I have every and any right to want that feeling only a woman can give me. Sounds selfish. I shouldn't have put that much into the act perhaps but it is what it turned out.

I don't really have time for people whom my having an income isn't enough. I don't have a job and pussy? isn't worth getting one for.
Sorry. I'd earnestly rather be dead so if somebody isn't willing to stick with it even though i'm not a wage slave then there's a door use it..

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if you aren't going to wait for the four years it will take this full time student to get through college you don't deserve the after product.

It depends on if he's TRYING to get "back on his feet". If he's genuinely trying, I'd say continue to support him if possible, because this is just one of those trials couples have to go through. But it's entirely different if he's not trying to find a job, contribute, etc. That's laziness and shows that he's not WILLING to be a partner to you, in which case the relationship probably wouldn't work out anyway

History is the best way to judge a person. you can’t change a tigers stripes. So, ask her to find out ... What is his work history?

If he’s has been able to hold a job for 2+ years then he is reliable. On the other hand if he typically goes from job to job With in a year or two, he is not a reliable employee and will not be a reliable contributor either. If he is highly skilled he may be having to wait longer for his specialty position to come up (6months). If he wants to help he can work at McDonald’s, Walmart, cut grass etc. but I would not put pressure on a great guy who Normally has a job and was just laid off.

My partner does not contribute, his business is basically charity... but he wakes up and works -really works—for other people’s benefit, and he works at home too (cooking, cleaning, and being a good companion to me) If he did not contribute in all of these ways, I would boot him out. Lazy is not what I call a friend. That’s charity too.

If you let him stay with you and not contribute, two things happen:
You become more resentful, because this is [b]not[/b] the relationship you want and
With his needs being met, he has no incentive to get his act together.

It’s time for you to cut your losses and move on.
If he’s not even willing to meet you halfway, your happiness doesn’t matter to him, so what are you holding onto ?

I once read: "People only react/act/move, when they are uncomfortable. Be it physically or emotionally. If they are comfortable wallowing in their puddle of misery, they'll stay right there.
But if you throw down a bunch of towels, dry up that puddle, and kick them squarely in the ass - they won't be comfortable, and they will "move". "


Sounds like you've thrown down the towels. Time to put on your boots.

I'm not waiting for my ass to be "Ready" and get through four years of school and honestly if you are INSISTING on me getting through first Don't expect me to come knocking on your door when i'm done instead of throwing shit at it.

Is he actively looking for another job or has he given up?
In what ways is he not willing to change?