I’m asking for a friend.... “I’m single” Would it be wrong to separate from your partner so they can get themselves together.

Or would this be considered tough love putting a man out until he gets on his feet. Or letting him stay with you and not contribute. Or build together but don’t see any changes simply because he’s not willing to change. Or do you think a man whose not willing to change will ever change if it’s space in the relationship...?

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SW-User

Is he actively looking for another job or has he given up?
In what ways is he not willing to change?

MrsCurious · 26-30, F

She said she would break up with him hoping he gets a job but she feels bad for him every time and he claims to get one but doesn’t @SW-User

SW-User

@MrsCurious I think in that case it really depends on the strength of the relationship. People will lose their jobs from time to time but if someone is genuinely trying and has every chance of succeeding, then ending the relationship over that may not be the best course of action unless there's other reasons.

When i was married, my wife lost her job and i said, take your time finding a new one, we can survive on one income for a while. A few years later, i lost mine and she went ballistic and made me sweat for every meal. The relationship never really recovered after that.

So i guess what i'm saying is that punishing someone for something outside of their control like a job loss can damage or destroy a relationship. If it's a good relationship, it might not be worth doing it although if they are inherently lazy then maybe it's the right time to move on.