I’m asking for a friend.... “I’m single” Would it be wrong to separate from your partner so they can get themselves together.

Or would this be considered tough love putting a man out until he gets on his feet. Or letting him stay with you and not contribute. Or build together but don’t see any changes simply because he’s not willing to change. Or do you think a man whose not willing to change will ever change if it’s space in the relationship...?

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Mindful · 56-60, F

History is the best way to judge a person. you can’t change a tigers stripes. So, ask her to find out ... What is his work history?

If he’s has been able to hold a job for 2+ years then he is reliable. On the other hand if he typically goes from job to job With in a year or two, he is not a reliable employee and will not be a reliable contributor either. If he is highly skilled he may be having to wait longer for his specialty position to come up (6months). If he wants to help he can work at McDonald’s, Walmart, cut grass etc. but I would not put pressure on a great guy who Normally has a job and was just laid off.

My partner does not contribute, his business is basically charity... but he wakes up and works -really works—for other people’s benefit, and he works at home too (cooking, cleaning, and being a good companion to me) If he did not contribute in all of these ways, I would boot him out. Lazy is not what I call a friend. That’s charity too.