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And yet again, another lack of understanding about approaching women/people in a public setting...

Today, some strange guy approached me from behind while I was in the parking area where I live dealing with an issue of my vehicle. He said something to get my attention and as I turned around with a confused look on my face he says to me, "don't be giving me that stink face" and then asks me for money.

I don't live in the 'best' neighborhood, to say the least. Why can't there be understanding met about that as well as that I'm alone when approached?
jackson55 · M
Get yourself some mace.
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@jackson55 I have a big azz knife but I don't have a permit to carry it in public
jackson55 · M
[@ Mace is legal and you can carry it in your purse or pocket. Mace in the face will make him go away. Pepper spray works too.
lasergraph · 70-79, M
Most "normal" people understand how cautious a lone female would be when being approached by any stranger. Those who have been on the streets for an extended period of time have developed a different view. Some even count on lone females to feel intimidated and who might give them money just to get rid of them. That is part of their plan. He counted on you feeling uncomfortable and intimidated. It often works in his favor.
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@lasergraph I have no idea if this particular person counts on intimidating females in order to get money. This is the second time he's approached me in the parking area. The first time he was flirting and didn't ask for money. He was also walking with two females that time. He reached out to offer to shake my hand but when I engage he held onto my hand a little too long.

How do you know that people who ask strangers for money intentionally intimidate females so they'll give them money?
lasergraph · 70-79, M
@Phire1 I write books, create characters and it is my business to know why people do the things they do. I used to have a neighbor that was a drug addict, he hung with that particular group and I listened carefully when they talked. He of course lost the house and is now living on the streets somewhere. It was a broad statement and of course wouldn't apply to everyone, I can't possibly know everyone, but it did apply to those who I was acquainted with.
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@lasergraph Interesting
Neurotoxin · 31-35, M
Ugh not the parking lot hasslers. Reminds me of the time I got yelled at by some random guy at a gas station for no real reason.
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@Neurotoxin Dealt with that a lot - I hear you
rckt148 · 61-69, M
many begging for money live on those streets ,
your view of your surroundings and theirs are not even close to the same
You want to get to the safety of your car or home
To them that is their home ,and as safe as it gets

On his behalf I will say I am sorry he startled you
But his mind set and yours are on 2 different planets
he just wanted the two's and few's to make his life their a little more bearable .
He has had to get bold to do that ,and also deal with the rejection when most people say "Sorry I can't help you "
maybe he thought the "Stink face thing was an ice breaker "
But I am sure he did not mean to scare you ,he was only hustling change
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@rckt148 I don't think that was just a show - I heard that was a real thing happening about knocking people out on the street.
These days, if one defends themselves they could end up in trouble, too.
I am glad that you and your daughters help others!
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@rckt148 Anyhow, sometimes it's annoying as shit when some people on here concentrate so much on only one part of a question/statement while missing/ignoring the overall main point.
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@Phire1 Well I hope I did not annoy you ,I enjoyed speaking with you
here and our other talk in message .
Hope to hear from you again
Its funny you said "anyhow " ,I normally say "anyway "
Wishing you well
Rick
Fernie · F
If you're wanting that type of male to understand...ain't gonna happen
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@Fernie Seeming so
SW-User
He is most likely mentally Ill. That's why when I hear " excuse me miss, can I ask you a que..." I speed walk away like " no no no no no..."
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@SW-User He didn't appear to be mentally ill but then again I can't assume that he's not
SW-User
Was that fool on drugs, asking you for money...tut tut.
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@SW-User He might have been. Don't know. He didn't appear to be on drugs
dreamsicle · 46-50, F
A little more info please. Why on earth was he asking for money?
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@dreamsicle Yes I do live in a city area
dreamsicle · 46-50, F
@Phire1 I’m suburban soft
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@dreamsicle I hate living in the city. Always have
We’re you approached or mugged?
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@Quoththeraven I've encountered this particular guy before. The first time he was very polite but overly friendly
@Phire1 I’d not do well with that situation
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@Quoththeraven My point with this post is really about how others approach people
Phire1 · 51-55, F
Chickie · F
That's when you call the cops or bring your pocket knife or stun gun if you don't own a gun
Phire1 · 51-55, F
@Chickie I have dealt with a lot of people (mostly males) saying rude things to me in public for no good reason. I don't have a permit to carry any weapon. Mace sounds good, though

 
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