And yet again, another lack of understanding about approaching women/people in a public setting...

Today, some strange guy approached me from behind while I was in the parking area where I live dealing with an issue of my vehicle. He said something to get my attention and as I turned around with a confused look on my face he says to me, "don't be giving me that stink face" and then asks me for money.

I don't live in the 'best' neighborhood, to say the least. Why can't there be understanding met about that as well as that I'm alone when approached?

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rckt148 · 61-69, M

many begging for money live on those streets ,
your view of your surroundings and theirs are not even close to the same
You want to get to the safety of your car or home
To them that is their home ,and as safe as it gets

On his behalf I will say I am sorry he startled you
But his mind set and yours are on 2 different planets
he just wanted the two's and few's to make his life their a little more bearable .
He has had to get bold to do that ,and also deal with the rejection when most people say "Sorry I can't help you "
maybe he thought the "Stink face thing was an ice breaker "
But I am sure he did not mean to scare you ,he was only hustling change

Phire1 · 51-55, F

@rckt148 This isn't the first time I've encountered this particular guy in my parking area. Also, I am an ex-homeless person. I get it. But, too many approach me in ways that are not really ok and then get bent when I don't respond in kind - then blame Me.

rckt148 · 61-69, M

@Phire1 our world is a harder place getting harder especially for them
In local parks where once they were fed ,now they can't meet at the same place 2 days in a row ,,so someone has to tell them food is here ,and where or some don't get fed ,and the communities want them gone ,but to where ?
Last year the mission only had 1000 people a day eating there ,now it 2000 and up
Shut ins up from a 100 -200 and more ,and also a new generation out there that have not been taught manners and respect like many of us were

You can show him a pepper spay and ask him not to approach you again
Or put him in check ,a little respect goes a long way

"I am a lady alone here ,don't keep coming up on me like that ".
And if he doesn't get it ,then ignore him and walk on
I am sure he is used to that anyway ,
If you were homeless you should know how it is
Some its a hustle ,some its the bottom and they are having trouble looking up .People are getting colder and colder ,the ones who give and the ones that beg .I was hit up by an older man yesterday
He was getting everyone that come out of the store ,and I had just made a trip so I was actually busted ,,not even change in my pocket ,normally I help
but he was pleasant ,blessing me anyway ,wishing me a Happy Fathers Day
I actually felt bad I had no money on me to bless him .
but I get it ,some should be more wise as to how they roll up on someone

Phire1 · 51-55, F

@rckt148 Thank you for that..
This issue is not solely (if at all) about people asking for money. I get that part.
It's mainly about how males address me.

The first time he approached me he was walking with two females. He complimented my truck, walked up to me to gesture to shake my hand of which I did, then he held onto my hand 'too' long while saying, "I just want to tell you that you're pretty if no one else told you today." I lied and said someone already did. He's not an ugly guy but I don't like being approached in public the way he did. It was one of those things where you had to be there to get it.
There ARE people that want to meet other people just to use them for something (such as my truck).

rckt148 · 61-69, M

@Phire1 I get where you are coming from ,you need some pepper spray on a key chain and a color that makes it visible ,but I do get it .
My 10 yr old goes into the homes of the elderly to feed them ,with his older sisters of coarse ,
And they cry and pet him and tell him how they don't know how to react to people being nice to them ,coming in their homes to help them and care about their needs ,some have signs that say to go away ,but they check on them anyway .
Most people only come to their doors trying to scam them or case the place to see if they have anything worth stealing ,,it is a sad world we live in today
I seen a show where kids were knocking people out on the streets as a game .
it was a show but someone has to know crap like that can start trends .

There were elderly ladies back in my childhood men know not to play with ,
They carried straight razors and people know they would cut you ,
Mrs Spencer was an elderly black lady ,and she killed a white man back in the day ,but everyone knew her, she was devoted to her Jesus ,but don't put your hands on her ,she would send you to meet him before she did .

My Daughters have tazers ,with stun lights
Today its just wise to always tote some type of personal protection ,and keep it handy to use ,just in case
And as you already do ,be wise to their intentions

Phire1 · 51-55, F

@rckt148 I don't think that was just a show - I heard that was a real thing happening about knocking people out on the street.
These days, if one defends themselves they could end up in trouble, too.
I am glad that you and your daughters help others!

Phire1 · 51-55, F

@rckt148 Anyhow, sometimes it's annoying as shit when some people on here concentrate so much on only one part of a question/statement while missing/ignoring the overall main point.

rckt148 · 61-69, M

@Phire1 Well I hope I did not annoy you ,I enjoyed speaking with you
here and our other talk in message .
Hope to hear from you again
Its funny you said "anyhow " ,I normally say "anyway "
Wishing you well
Rick