And yet again, another lack of understanding about approaching women/people in a public setting...

Today, some strange guy approached me from behind while I was in the parking area where I live dealing with an issue of my vehicle. He said something to get my attention and as I turned around with a confused look on my face he says to me, "don't be giving me that stink face" and then asks me for money.

I don't live in the 'best' neighborhood, to say the least. Why can't there be understanding met about that as well as that I'm alone when approached?

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lasergraph · 70-79, M

Most "normal" people understand how cautious a lone female would be when being approached by any stranger. Those who have been on the streets for an extended period of time have developed a different view. Some even count on lone females to feel intimidated and who might give them money just to get rid of them. That is part of their plan. He counted on you feeling uncomfortable and intimidated. It often works in his favor.

Fernie · F

@lasergraph what the hell is wrong with males? Can you tell us that?

lasergraph · 70-79, M

@Fernie Sorry I can't. The ones begging for money count on making you uncomfortable believing you will give them money to get rid of them. I don't have any idea why anyone would just approach a stranger out of the blue, especially if no one else was around. It never happened when I was a young man.

Fernie · F

@lasergraph It has always happened. Maybe you weren't one of the mutant males who rape or beat or attack in some way but males have always done these things to women....we just see it now Don't say it didn't happen...please

lasergraph · 70-79, M

@Fernie Let me phrase it this way. It didn't happen where I was. I grew up in a small town. There wasn't any problems with strangers approaching women at all, because there weren't any strangers. Everyone knew everyone else. You knew their parents and all their siblings. If someone new showed up in town, everyone kept a suspicious eye on them. I started working in the fields when I was twelve so it may have been I was too busy to pay attention.

Phire1 · 51-55, F

@lasergraph I have no idea if this particular person counts on intimidating females in order to get money. This is the second time he's approached me in the parking area. The first time he was flirting and didn't ask for money. He was also walking with two females that time. He reached out to offer to shake my hand but when I engage he held onto my hand a little too long.

How do you know that people who ask strangers for money intentionally intimidate females so they'll give them money?

lasergraph · 70-79, M

@Phire1 I write books, create characters and it is my business to know why people do the things they do. I used to have a neighbor that was a drug addict, he hung with that particular group and I listened carefully when they talked. He of course lost the house and is now living on the streets somewhere. It was a broad statement and of course wouldn't apply to everyone, I can't possibly know everyone, but it did apply to those who I was acquainted with.

Phire1 · 51-55, F

@lasergraph Interesting