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PoetryNEmotion 路 F
I have no problem doing the dishes or cleaning up after a free meal. It is customary for me. And the stories people who do chores together share is a form of intimacy. You may ask someone to help if that is comfortable for you. If I hold a meal, I generally say no thank you. I do what dishes there are later that night. I like one on one time when I invite people into my home. I don't do this often. I think it is whatever is comfortable for you.
swandfriends 路 41-45, F
Yeah I feel more comfortable maybe cleaning a couple things to get out of the way, then just wash stuff after my guests leave. My grandma thinks dishes needs to be washed right away
PoetryNEmotion 路 F
@swandfriends Grandmas are old and set in their ways.
whisperingwillow 路 36-40, F
I鈥檝e never been invited anywhere where I was expected to clean up after, but I always do. Even if it鈥檚 a play date or a birthday party, etc.
I never expect anyone to clean up when they come to my house either, and while most don鈥檛 there are definitely some who insist on it.
I think it鈥檚 rude to EXPECT it, but I think it鈥檚 good manners to always offer to clean up just to show your gratitude.
I never expect anyone to clean up when they come to my house either, and while most don鈥檛 there are definitely some who insist on it.
I think it鈥檚 rude to EXPECT it, but I think it鈥檚 good manners to always offer to clean up just to show your gratitude.
Queendragonfly 路 31-35, F
I know a person who have this rule but she's very special as a person with very special rules.
I wouldn't expect anyone to take their plates and dish them but some of my guests insist and yell at me if they don't get to clean so.. 馃槀
I wouldn't expect anyone to take their plates and dish them but some of my guests insist and yell at me if they don't get to clean so.. 馃槀
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Expressman 路 61-69
@swandfriends I've always asked if help was wanted. A few times accepted, most times rejected.
Queendragonfly 路 31-35, F
@Expressman I have a choice til Mother-in-law visits. She gets a mental breakdown if I "Take the dishes away" from her. 馃檮
Queendragonfly 路 31-35, F
Since she's a boomer I understand it's a strong duty she was taught and that it feels wrong to her to not help.
Cigarguy101 路 41-45, M
My buddy and his daughter help clean up after i cook for them. Do i except it no. Maybe its thier way of saying thanks after the meal. I wouldn't care if the ate and didn't help at all.
Sunstone 路 41-45, F
I've never asked anyone I invited to wash up, I would feel rude doing so, like they have to make up for the dinner I cooked. But I don't think I'd mind if it were the other way round.
val70 路 51-55
Yes, it's rude. Not polite at all. Not done. Shows up an element of not have been wanted. Hope that clears up things. It's the European way to be direct :-)
calicuz 路 51-55, M
No way, I would never have my guests clean up anything. We're from the Midwest as well, and we were never taught that.
Starcrossed 路 41-45, F
I think that's an odd behavior.
Generally I don't like cleaning up until after my guests are gone.
Generally I don't like cleaning up until after my guests are gone.
PhoenixPhail 路 M
I've never heard of such a thing.
KimmyGary 路 F
Paper plates at my place