What's your opinion on people who invite someone over for dinner and then expects them to wash the dishes after everyone's done?

I have no problem doing the dishes or cleaning up after a free meal. It is customary for me. And the stories people who do chores together share is a form of intimacy. You may ask someone to help if that is comfortable for you. If I hold a meal, I generally say no thank you. I do what dishes there are later that night. I like one on one time when I invite people into my home. I don't do this often. I think it is whatever is comfortable for you.

I’ve never been invited anywhere where I was expected to clean up after, but I always do. Even if it’s a play date or a birthday party, etc.

I never expect anyone to clean up when they come to my house either, and while most don’t there are definitely some who insist on it.

I think it’s rude to EXPECT it, but I think it’s good manners to always offer to clean up just to show your gratitude.

I know a person who have this rule but she's very special as a person with very special rules.

I wouldn't expect anyone to take their plates and dish them but some of my guests insist and yell at me if they don't get to clean so.. 😂

My buddy and his daughter help clean up after i cook for them. Do i except it no. Maybe its thier way of saying thanks after the meal. I wouldn't care if the ate and didn't help at all.

I've never asked anyone I invited to wash up, I would feel rude doing so, like they have to make up for the dinner I cooked. But I don't think I'd mind if it were the other way round.

No way, I would never have my guests clean up anything. We're from the Midwest as well, and we were never taught that.

I think that's an odd behavior.

Generally I don't like cleaning up until after my guests are gone.

Yes, it's rude. Not polite at all. Not done. Shows up an element of not have been wanted. Hope that clears up things. It's the European way to be direct :-)

I've never heard of such a thing.

Paper plates at my place