What's your opinion on people who invite someone over for dinner and then expects them to wash the dishes after everyone's done?

I'm not sure if this is a regional thing or if it is customary with most people (I live in the mid-west).. In my family, on both sides, it seemed the dinner guests were expected to clean up. Then way into my adult years, like only a few years ago, it dawned on me that is kinda rude and sets an uncomfortable tone to expect your guests, that you invited for dinner to clean up everything. I would never expect that of my invited guests.

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PoetryNEmotion · F

I have no problem doing the dishes or cleaning up after a free meal. It is customary for me. And the stories people who do chores together share is a form of intimacy. You may ask someone to help if that is comfortable for you. If I hold a meal, I generally say no thank you. I do what dishes there are later that night. I like one on one time when I invite people into my home. I don't do this often. I think it is whatever is comfortable for you.

swandfriends · 41-45, F

Yeah I feel more comfortable maybe cleaning a couple things to get out of the way, then just wash stuff after my guests leave. My grandma thinks dishes needs to be washed right away

PoetryNEmotion · F

@swandfriends Grandmas are old and set in their ways.