What's your opinion on people who invite someone over for dinner and then expects them to wash the dishes after everyone's done?

I'm not sure if this is a regional thing or if it is customary with most people (I live in the mid-west).. In my family, on both sides, it seemed the dinner guests were expected to clean up. Then way into my adult years, like only a few years ago, it dawned on me that is kinda rude and sets an uncomfortable tone to expect your guests, that you invited for dinner to clean up everything. I would never expect that of my invited guests.

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whisperingwillow · 36-40, F

I’ve never been invited anywhere where I was expected to clean up after, but I always do. Even if it’s a play date or a birthday party, etc.

I never expect anyone to clean up when they come to my house either, and while most don’t there are definitely some who insist on it.

I think it’s rude to EXPECT it, but I think it’s good manners to always offer to clean up just to show your gratitude.