What's your opinion on people who invite someone over for dinner and then expects them to wash the dishes after everyone's done?

I'm not sure if this is a regional thing or if it is customary with most people (I live in the mid-west).. In my family, on both sides, it seemed the dinner guests were expected to clean up. Then way into my adult years, like only a few years ago, it dawned on me that is kinda rude and sets an uncomfortable tone to expect your guests, that you invited for dinner to clean up everything. I would never expect that of my invited guests.

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Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

I know a person who have this rule but she's very special as a person with very special rules.

I wouldn't expect anyone to take their plates and dish them but some of my guests insist and yell at me if they don't get to clean so.. 😂

swandfriends · 41-45, F

Lol yeah, some people insist they should clean up or at least do some of it

Expressman · 61-69

@swandfriends I've always asked if help was wanted. A few times accepted, most times rejected.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Expressman I have a choice til Mother-in-law visits. She gets a mental breakdown if I "Take the dishes away" from her. 🙄

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

Since she's a boomer I understand it's a strong duty she was taught and that it feels wrong to her to not help.