Unpopular opinion: Ghosting isn't that big of a deal 馃懟
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GeistInTheMachine 路 31-35, M
Well, a lot of times people are ok with something socially disrespectful until the shoe is on the other foot.
I think context matters. I.e., how long people were talking for and what the nature of interaction or relationship is (if any), and so on.
Functional healthy societies only work if people are willing to play ball.
If we create and uphold a toxic culture, then we continue to see a worsening of the atomization and lonliness epidemic present today.
Granted, there are many factors to this, but how we treat people matters.
People are losing respect for eachother and that is not good.
And I know I could do a better job in that reguard, too.
IMO it can be just a lazy and haphazard way of treating people.
It furthers an attitude towards others where everyone is just an interchangeable nothing.
And then eventually you'll end up in societies where people don't trust anyone.
I think context matters. I.e., how long people were talking for and what the nature of interaction or relationship is (if any), and so on.
Functional healthy societies only work if people are willing to play ball.
If we create and uphold a toxic culture, then we continue to see a worsening of the atomization and lonliness epidemic present today.
Granted, there are many factors to this, but how we treat people matters.
People are losing respect for eachother and that is not good.
And I know I could do a better job in that reguard, too.
IMO it can be just a lazy and haphazard way of treating people.
It furthers an attitude towards others where everyone is just an interchangeable nothing.
And then eventually you'll end up in societies where people don't trust anyone.
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Queendragonfly 路 31-35, F
@GeistInTheMachine Again, if you disregard enough people's feelings there is bound to be social blowback.
This sounds awfully a lot like incels who claim women owe men their time and their bodies. I sure hope that's not what you are insinuating because sex isn't charity.
Instead I would look at the reason why men lose themselves and their entire life purpose the second a woman isn't sexually interested.
Why can't these men be fine with just their family and friends? Many other men can. So what's the difference?
This sounds awfully a lot like incels who claim women owe men their time and their bodies. I sure hope that's not what you are insinuating because sex isn't charity.
Instead I would look at the reason why men lose themselves and their entire life purpose the second a woman isn't sexually interested.
Why can't these men be fine with just their family and friends? Many other men can. So what's the difference?
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Queendragonfly 路 31-35, F
@GeistInTheMachine I will delete comments with a bad tone.
summersong 路 F
Sorry but no. If it鈥檚 someone you only know casually then maybe. But if you鈥檝e been talking to someone for years, really investing in your friendship/relationship/whatever and they just bail without saying anything? It鈥檚 shitty and it just shows how little they actually think of you. Is it their right? Absolutely. But that doesn鈥檛 make it justifiable. Boundaries are a completely different thing btw.
Queendragonfly 路 31-35, F
@summersong Yes as in you clearly find people's self respect actions shitty. And people who ghost you has probably already figured out that you're not that nice so instead of risking hearing "buuuuuhuuu you shitty person" from you, they just bail. In peace.
summersong 路 F
@Queendragonfly I don鈥檛 think you know what ghosting actually is. Ghosting is not self-respect. If someone wants to tell me how much they like me one day and then disappear how is that anything but cruel?
Btw automatically blaming someone you don鈥檛 know at all for being hurt by the loss of a friend says a lot about you. None of it good.
Btw automatically blaming someone you don鈥檛 know at all for being hurt by the loss of a friend says a lot about you. None of it good.
Queendragonfly 路 31-35, F
@summersong I think deciding whom I decide to not contact is 100% based on self respect. 馃檶
BeefySenpie 路 M
BeefySenpie 路 M
@Queendragonfly Your attempts to persuade us otherwise are also just your opinion, unless of course your opinion is the only one that counts
Queendragonfly 路 31-35, F
@BeefySenpie I'm not persuading anyone, at least not consciously. Anyone can agree or disagree of course. And no my opinion isn't the only one that counts but as long as I don't see a opinion I can reason with, I will support and argument for mine.
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Queendragonfly 路 31-35, F
@Queendragonfly well, yeah, there is that approach. LOL
Queendragonfly 路 31-35, F
@CarolinaCrushDaddy I sometimes see people comment on my posts or comments "Sorry I didn't respond sooner"
and all I think is
"What has happened to this world?"
People have been globally gaslighted to think they owe people their responds or time. Absolutely bonkers.
and all I think is
"What has happened to this world?"
People have been globally gaslighted to think they owe people their responds or time. Absolutely bonkers.
PaleandPolluted 路 36-40, F
Soft ghosting that's traumatic....
Queendragonfly 路 31-35, F
@PaleandPolluted What's confusing with it? Aren't you aware that rejection can happen?
I get if it was new as a teen. Where we yet were to learn how the world works. But as adults I think it's about time we know the rules.
I get if it was new as a teen. Where we yet were to learn how the world works. But as adults I think it's about time we know the rules.
PaleandPolluted 路 36-40, F
@Queendragonfly they go hot and cold, they come back.. then disappear
Queendragonfly 路 31-35, F
@PaleandPolluted But you let them do that. So...why should I feel sorry for you?
If you don't like how they act you have a choice too you know.
If you don't like how they act you have a choice too you know.
Roundandroundwego 路 61-69
Ghosting was always possible if you kept moving. Now it's normal and character isn't a thing. Be whatever!
That's not social. It's great for the owners.
That's not social. It's great for the owners.
Queendragonfly 路 31-35, F
@Roundandroundwego I think knowing who you like to talk to and not is the proof of someone with character.
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