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There's a difference between sharing your truth and using your discomfort as a reason to tear someone else down.

People are allowed to speak from their own experiences, even when those experiences don't match yours. Disagree if you want, challenge the idea if you need to. Just don't mistake personal attacks for honesty or integrity.

Sometimes our strongest reactions have more to do with what's unresolved within us than the person we're reacting to. It's easier to project our hurt onto someone else than to sit with it ourselves, but that doesn't make it right.

If expressing yourself comes at the expense of someone else's dignity, it isn't honesty. It makes you a bully.
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StarLily · 51-55, F
Love this, very well said!
Holy sheet, that's awesome 👏 Couldn't agree more.
mindstruggle · 31-35, F
Captainjackass · 31-35, M
Well said! Bravo.
Sapio · 51-55, M
moonlightlullaby · 46-50, F
Well said 🥂
DrWatson · 70-79, M
That is very insightful.
mindstruggle · 31-35, F
@DrWatson
Thanks doki, some patterns become hard to ignore after you've seen them enough.
Ferric67 · M
I've always said this
it's not about me, it's about you

hello my dear
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mindstruggle · 31-35, F
@jshm2
You seem to be arguing against a point I never made, but I'm too tired to unpack that.
TheHammer · 51-55, M
I am Impressed and humbled by the way you wrote that. I'm not smart enough to ever be able to say what you said the way you said it.
Great post.
Fairygirl19 · 31-35, F
I hate bullies 😠
StygianKohlrabi · 46-50, M
wow this reads like actual psychology advice. I need you to whisper in my earpiece all day. 👂
mindstruggle · 31-35, F
@StygianKohlrabi
Lol I'm just putting into words the reminders I need to hear myself sometimes.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
I tend to avoid people who say they're brutally honest because I don't understand the brutal part.
I'm a straight talker and I'll tell you what I think ,but I'm not going to be cruel to anyone.
@Justmeraeagain Well I never meant it has/ had to be sugar coating. But sometimes that’s just obvious what some do. For me personally, I ‘shoot straight’ so to speak. I try to be very clear, but never mean to hurt anyone. But… we must realize sometimes people don’t want to hear truth, because it doesn’t line up with what they want to hear, but when we really care about them, why wouldn’t we shoot straight. For instance your children or relatives whom should matter most. I for one wouldn’t stand by and let my daughter go shipwreck by sugar coating what I know to be solid truth. I love her too much to worry about her feelings when she might regret something the rest of her life. Approach definitely matters. With strangers or casual acquaintances, it would be wise to not even delve into when one sees them heading in the wrong direction. Being polite always matters but without being a doormat to anyone. Jmo. 🙂

Saying the truth ‘without’ sugar coating in the spirit of love is always appropriate and acceptable to me.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
@Unefilletrescurieuse
I get what you're saying and it makes sense.
It doesn't matter how kind you are sometimes people are going to take what you say and twist it to something you never intended.
There are some subjects that are too important to not say it straight.
I wait for reaction before I say much more after I have said my piecce,because if it's a bad narcissistic type reaction then I'm done.
I see no reason to keep telling people like that "how it is", because they don't care they just want to be admired or fight.
@Justmeraeagain You’re exactly right…
Jimbo6969 · 36-40, M
I really dislike the term "your truth".. Isn't there just THE truth
@Jimbo6969 golly gee… thanks! 😊
Jimbo6969 · 36-40, M
@Unefilletrescurieuse you are most welcome... Sometimes i amaze myself at just how kind I am 😂
@Jimbo6969 uhhhhh ok? 😜
Afterlife · 70-79, MNew
This understanding is reflected in my line of work (proving that nature alone provides afterlife). This conclusion cannot be based on criticizing magic as causation or cessation as effect. There must be direct indication that natural afterlife is the fully correct belief. I've succeeded.
Afterlife · 70-79, MNew
@Afterlife I should add that almost everyone is going to be upset that they were wrong. This will be my doing but it isn't my problem. The truth also deserves a voice.
Horace · M
I get this all the time. Generally, I post based on my experience. Many people take it personally and have a conniption fit. I guess they know more about my life than I. 🤣
I usually just share my truth in silly cat memes
mindstruggle · 31-35, F
@cherny
Bc you're fun.
bookerdana · M
people often say,I'm brutally honest...they're just bullies trying to take the moral high ground
candycane · 36-40, F

 
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