My Perspective on Respect and Connection”

I have always treated people with a lot of respect and spoken to them in a good way. But people often expect something extra from me. They assume that because I’m married and on this site, there must be some problem in my relationship — but that’s not true. I’m simply here to talk to people in a decent way. Life is not only about sex. There is much more to it. For me, intimacy feels right only with someone I’m emotionally connected to. I don’t understand how some people can talk about sex with just anyone. These are just my thoughts.”

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zonavar68 · 56-60, M

I agree with you. I'm single but cannot make a proper connection sexually or emotionally without a deep intellectual bond because I'm both demi- and sapio-sexual plus also neuro-typical, socially phobic, introverted and more. I'm actually now very frightened of everything to do with sex, intimacy, dating, romance, relationships. Also I will never get married because I see no value in it plus in my view it's far too risky.

You're completely right that life is not only about sex. I've not had any of that for 10 yrs now and life still goes on so I know I'm not missing much.

I hope you have a great day!

Ann99 · 41-45, FNew

@zonavar68 I totally get you, and I respect your choices. It’s really good that you know yourself so well. Life isn’t just about sex or relationships, and it sounds like you’re doing just fine. Take care, and I hope you have a great day too 🙂

ostfuidctyvm

Everyone is different and then a lot of men function differently to a lot of women when it comes to sex. I've never required any kind of emotional connection in order to engage in sexual activity, whether in real life or online. It's just never been important. I've never felt emotional during sex either. I'm just not wired that way. Fortunately these days my interest in sex is greatly diminished and so I can't be bothered to seek it out.

I'm here primarily to kill time and to offload my brain. There is a bit of chaos in there. I post a lot of stupid content and have fun. It's my own form of self therapy. It helps that there are some good and funny people here to engage with. I certainly don't have any toxic or predatory reasons for being here like too many here do.

Ann99 · 41-45, FNew

@ostfuidctyvm Yes, that’s true 🙂 I know everyone has their own life experiences, and that affects how they view things.

chernobylplaygr0unds

You have just as much a right to be here as anyone else. No, not everyone is looking for sex here ..including me ...I too am married but I'm not looking for anything extra.... sometimes people will get the wrong idea on here because that's what they are looking for . I'm just here for light banter and catch up with old friends .

Ann99 · 41-45, FNew

@chernobylplaygr0unds Yes, exactly 🙂 Not everyone is here for that. I’m also just here to have nice conversations and catch up with people in a friendly way.

chernobylplaygr0unds

@Ann99 Nothing wrong with that at all

Levenrack · 46-50, M

Why even bring up your married status to begin with? People on here don't need to know that, until you've chosen to become more on a friendlier basis with them or if at all.
You don't owe the people on here anything and SW shouldn't be used as a hookup platform anyways, in my mind.

romell · 51-55, M

Different people different needs some allign with yours some don't

Punxi · F

Neither do I.

You do ...you.

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