What is a defense mechanism you have that you want to change?

I will often laugh and joke with people when they're being unkind to me or sarcastic etc..instead of being assertive and saying my feelings, I just laugh or return with a slight sarcasm joke. This feels very defeating and I'm tired of acting like something is ok when it's not.

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Cigarguy · M

I don't stand up or defend myself at all. I just back down. It's easier than getting into a disagreement with someone.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Cigarguy Same..sucks😧. But over time that does lessen my esteem... I'm learning in books to gently say "no , sorry. " To various people, with no extra explanation. They're taking care of their needs, who will take care of mine ever??