Reading his posts here made me emotional.

@Iwantyourhotwife Men who choose to, suffer in silence.

@Iwantyourhotwife He is actually very open and transparent with me. Just reading his thoughts and feelings during some tough times from before we met just got me choked up. He has his way with words especially when it's written haha.

@Queendragonfly Sometimes men just need people that can support them and whom they can feel comfortable with to be vulnerable without any judgement ❤️

@emereese That goes for all people. My point is we have a responsibility to be vulnerable in a relationship.

@emereese yes!

@Queendragonfly Totally! I think it's a bit tougher for men to be comfortable with being vulnerable emotionally because of different circumstances (societal expectations, upbringing, etc.).

@emereese Yes and no. We can't keep excusing men and enabling a victim mindset. It's quite terrifying to be vulnerable as a woman too, especially with knowing the statistics of domestic violence.

@Queendragonfly No one is excusing or enabling anyone here 🙂 being vulnerable can be scary to anyone regardless of sex nor gender. It's human thing and that's okay. I'm just happy that I can be there for my man and he is also there for me. In the end, we just love and take care of other and that's what matters 😊

@emereese I didn't mean to offend you but you were so fast to defend men who aren't showing vulnerability.

If people always feel sorry for men who shuts their loved ones out it won't help emotional equality. We should expect men to be vulnerable too in order to make it the norm, no matter one's gender.

This had nothing to do with your post, I responded to a comment that wasn't yours. You then engaged.

@Queendragonfly Not offended at all lol and I'm not defending anyone. Just acknowledging that things can be different to a lot of people. Welp, just sharing my thoughts.

@Queendragonfly have you ever seen or thought that silence may be a reaction and not an action?

You mention excuses as if it is a perfectly healthy and normal relationship and this person is choosing to simply withdraw. Aimlessly. No point. No reason. No cause. Just is withdrawing and then is throwing out [b]excuses[/b] and then now these excuses have to stop being given

You ever picture is in a reactive sense or have you seen the origins of this withdrawal? 👀

@emereese I'm just sharing my thoughts too, and different indicates you are differing between men and women's vulnerability while I'm saying we should not differ them. But since you're not offended let's just agree to disagree. 😊

@Iwantyourhotwife Silence can be a reaction yes but if you know you struggle to open up you have a responsibility to seek help if you can't work it out on your own.

@Queendragonfly opening up only becomes a struggle when people are shutting you up, ignoring you, or ostracizing you for speaking up

Healthy people speak and know that they should be heard. It's quite basic and fundamental human communication but it can be shut down when someone is punished for speaking out and they find that others punish them for vocalizing their issues

We're human. Men too. We all want to speak. This is why it sounds odd to hear about being blamed for not speaking up when that's what everyone does. Literally, it's victims that are shaken to the point of silence. Some form of unhealthy behavior has to be taking place.

If this is clear, that's why it's not about excuses being made for having a hard time being vulneravke

@Iwantyourhotwife I understand your personal perspective however I'm focusing on the requirements for a healthy relationship.

@Queendragonfly you're 100% right in vulnerability being a necessity in relationships. It quite literally translates to trust since we feel safe around those we trust, so we become vulnerable

@Iwantyourhotwife Trust yes, but foremost connection. No one can connect with a wall. And without connection the relationship is empty.