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Can you not trust (men/women/anyone)?

I wonder sometimes if it's I can't trust XXXX, or if it isn't more that I can't trust myself for fear of hurt. And, if it is indeed myself that I can't trust, how will I ever trust enough to find anyone trustworthy, or heal that which is broken?
frequentlyme
70-79, M
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SW-User
I'm too broken to trust anyone. I don't believe 99.98% of the stuff people tell me. I've been shown too many times that they don't mean any of it.
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frequentlyme · 70-79, M
@SW-User The pain then, is too great. I get that.
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Lillym · 46-50, F
@SW-User I hear ya! What's wrong with people...😔
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Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
I think since being on this site I’ve learned nobody can be trusted. After speaking with somebody for a few days you find out they are nuts.. screwballs., frauds, drunks, pervs. I can’t deal with that stuff. I’m not here for drama and bullshit. In real life I have a small circle I keep close to my heart and trust very much so.
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Salix75 · 46-50, F
I think much of it is "I can't trust myself for fear of hurt".

We trust people all the time, every day of our lives. I trust that the driver in the car won't run over me when I cross his path on the cross walk, I trust that my colleagues will not sabotage my work, I trust that my doctor won't intentionally prescribe me something harmful, my hairdresser won't nip off the tip of my ear etc. etc. etc.

People are too limited in how they define "trust"... it's so often restricted to emotional protection. I think it's often a case of "I am afraid to make myself vulnerable (again)"
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frequentlyme · 70-79, M
@Salix75 I think you are right - the sad part is that fear keeps some/many hidden away and unhappy.
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Salix75 · 46-50, F
@frequentlyme yep. pain and hurt are inevitable in life. But we've got to keep trying, otherwise we are guaranteed to miss out
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LyricalOne · F
I both trust myself and fear getting hurt. Especially since coming to trust another person amounts to a process of navigating around a dark room filled with sharp objects. But for some reason I keep on trying, perhaps because I'm just crazy enough to believe that I can once again find myself in the loveliest of light filled spaces.
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frequentlyme · 70-79, M
@LyricalOne This whole trust thing has followed me throughout life. Can I, dare I trust enough to be me? The answer, even when given the chance, has been no. The worst part of it, is that when you can't quite make it, can't quite trust enough and truly be who you are, you end up pulling away, telling half truths, etc., and hurt the person you are in a relationship with. So my solution is to be honest with myself. To accept that there is something broken, and not go down the path to anything more than light friendships. I simply will not take the chance of hurting another. If I can fix the issue, then fine; but unless/until I do, I'm not taking the chance.
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LyricalOne · F
@frequentlyme I'm so sorry you've never felt able to trust enough to be yourself. That must feel very lonely at times. But yes, it is important to know yourself and your limitations and considerate not to want to hurt anyone else. Guess I was just fortunate to have found great love with someone which did grow out of our ability to trust enough to be ourselves. Perhaps because it came somewhat later in life and we were further down the path of self acceptance which I believe is key. At any rate, it truly was a gift which I hope to find again some day.
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FishingTech · 36-40, M
I can trust others. It's myself I cant trust...I look pretty creepy.
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PoetryNEmotion · F
Too much, too much, slow down. You trust whom your heart and your mind tell you. It is simple. You are an intelligent man. You will figure it all out. I think when you find that person you shall trust, then that which is broken will heal. I am confusing myself now...*rereads* It is okay. :)
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frequentlyme · 70-79, M
@PoetryNEmotion Luv yah gal! 😂
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PoetryNEmotion · F
@frequentlyme Thank you so much! *grins* You are a fine fellow!
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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Due to the oppressive and sometimes frightening circumstances of my life, trust is a rare thing for me, as it should be.

I don't see this changing at any point in my life.

I dream of having more friends, but it is always a rough road for me. I do have two close friends, neither of which I get to see very often, but I know I am fortunate to have them.
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It's complicated. Saying we don't trust [i]anyone[/i] closes us to the opportunity to find someone else who can help us.
Sometimes it's what's necessary to heal, to take a step back and not any vulnerabilities. It could be a complicated mix of both. Trust takes time to cultivate at any age, and stage in life.
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Zaphod42 · 46-50, M
There are only two kinds of people you can't ever trust. Those with tattoos and those without ;-)
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SW-User
@Zaphod42 Hey! 😠 I have 5 tattoos.


Lol.
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Zaphod42 · 46-50, M
@SW-User And I have none which means we're both untrustworthy ;-) lol
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SW-User
@Zaphod42 Bollocks!!
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AbdoYonis
the only people i can't trust are dark blacks and girls

they betrayed me over my whole life
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frequentlyme · 70-79, M
@AbdoYonis So, you want to go through life missing out on the possibilities?
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Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
I am too trusting and end up getting hurt most of the time.So I really shouldn't trust either
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SW-User
I understand this at your age.
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frequentlyme · 70-79, M
@SW-User At my age? You mean you have to be older to be able to reflect, to do some introspection?
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SW-User
@frequentlyme I can ignore the fact of being loneliness being indulge with work and living with parents, at your age I can't survive this situation
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SW-User
yeah
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SW-User
I mean I agree with what you said

I trust no one
not even myself
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Peppa · 31-35, F
I just don't know, Have you mentioned some experiences faced on here before?
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