Can you not trust (men/women/anyone)?

I wonder sometimes if it's I can't trust XXXX, or if it isn't more that I can't trust myself for fear of hurt. And, if it is indeed myself that I can't trust, how will I ever trust enough to find anyone trustworthy, or heal that which is broken?

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LyricalOne · F

I both trust myself and fear getting hurt. Especially since coming to trust another person amounts to a process of navigating around a dark room filled with sharp objects. But for some reason I keep on trying, perhaps because I'm just crazy enough to believe that I can once again find myself in the loveliest of light filled spaces.

frequentlyme · 70-79, M

@LyricalOne This whole trust thing has followed me throughout life. Can I, dare I trust enough to be me? The answer, even when given the chance, has been no. The worst part of it, is that when you can't quite make it, can't quite trust enough and truly be who you are, you end up pulling away, telling half truths, etc., and hurt the person you are in a relationship with. So my solution is to be honest with myself. To accept that there is something broken, and not go down the path to anything more than light friendships. I simply will not take the chance of hurting another. If I can fix the issue, then fine; but unless/until I do, I'm not taking the chance.

LyricalOne · F

@frequentlyme I'm so sorry you've never felt able to trust enough to be yourself. That must feel very lonely at times. But yes, it is important to know yourself and your limitations and considerate not to want to hurt anyone else. Guess I was just fortunate to have found great love with someone which did grow out of our ability to trust enough to be ourselves. Perhaps because it came somewhat later in life and we were further down the path of self acceptance which I believe is key. At any rate, it truly was a gift which I hope to find again some day.