is it "mean" when you speak your mind

I don't see it as mean at all but honest

Here’s a rule saw about when to speak up:

Is it true?
Is it necessary?
Is it kind?


You say “when you’ve had enough”
If your boundaries are pushed you have a right to reinforce them. Wether you do that by just backing away And speaking your mind is another matter.

Not necessarily; you can confront someone in a kind way, speaking the truth as gently as possible. However, even if you confront someone politely, the other person may still feel hurt and accuse you of being mean...

Personally, sometimes I've found you just can't win in that sort of situation.

Word choice makes that response mean or compassionately honest. Your job if you choose to speak your mind is to be compassionate but honest with your word choice.

3 things... Intent, truthfulness and will it make things better or worse?

No one really wants the truth when they ask "does my bum look big in this?"

No, I think it’s reasonable. You can’t tolerate someone’s shit forever

Totally depends.. Your " had enough" bar may be set extremely low

It’s only mean when you intend it to be

Not at all but people usually say it is because they liked being able to stomp all over you

Tact is important. But speaking your mind isn't mean, it's all about the delivery.

Depends on the circumstances, and how you do it.

I don't think so. But you can try do it in a collected matter.