is it "mean" when you speak your mind
or confront someone when you've had enough?
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SW-User
Not necessarily; you can confront someone in a kind way, speaking the truth as gently as possible. However, even if you confront someone politely, the other person may still feel hurt and accuse you of being mean...
Personally, sometimes I've found you just can't win in that sort of situation.
Personally, sometimes I've found you just can't win in that sort of situation.
Jeremi · 41-45, M
@SW-User
I was speaking the truth but because I wasn't polite about it because no matter what I said, it always ended up being my fault. they did nothing wrong or gave some half assed apology and made themselves out to be the ones being "attacked". I'll admit that I could have been better about it, sometimes there's just only so much a person can take.
I was speaking the truth but because I wasn't polite about it because no matter what I said, it always ended up being my fault. they did nothing wrong or gave some half assed apology and made themselves out to be the ones being "attacked". I'll admit that I could have been better about it, sometimes there's just only so much a person can take.
SW-User
@Jeremi That's not a good sign. If someone doesn't care enough about you to listen to your side (even if you aren't being polite), then sad to say, it's probably all over.
Jeremi · 41-45, M
@SW-User
it pretty much is. there's this old saying that: some people are willig to hear you out, even if they don't agree, they'll still listen; other people are waiting for you to shut up so they can argue back. they don't really care what you have to say. yeah, pretty much a lost cause.
it pretty much is. there's this old saying that: some people are willig to hear you out, even if they don't agree, they'll still listen; other people are waiting for you to shut up so they can argue back. they don't really care what you have to say. yeah, pretty much a lost cause.
SW-User
@Jeremi It's true. If someone's made up their mind that I am The Enemy and the bad guy, there's not much I can do except give up on them. Arguing is pointless; I won't be able to change their mind.