This post may contain Mildly Adult content.

Struggles & Identity > Thoughts > Deep Thinking

I sometimes think about thinking about how the thoughts I've thunk can kink my thinks and funk my thunk

Mildly AdultAsking

Only logged in members can reply and interact with the post.
Join SimilarWorlds for FREE »

The invisibilty of age

You never think of it when youre young.

Never think how one day people just wont 'see' you.

We never even think how we dont see older people.... because we never notice them.

And when we do, its with some kind of unattractiveness that we naturally shy away from due to our own fears of losing youth.

Yet, think of the inner strength one must need to be older. To lose all that depended upon by youth:
- Physical attraction
- Physical ability
- connection to popular culture
- the vibrancy and flippancy that comes with 'time yet to spare'.

Do you have the strength to age beyond these things?
To lose these traits that appeal to others and are social commodities?

What would you do if you lost them tomorrow?

Do you have all those other traits and strengths that are needed to age with grace and confidence?

Top | New | Old

DayDreamer3 · 36-40, F

I actually had this thought earlier today. While I am still youngish. I have worked with seniors a good part of my life. I also have always felt like and old soul trapped in a young body. When I was driving today I noticed in my review mirror this older lady fixing her hair in the mirror after looking at a younger girl. And I wondered how she felt. Perhaps she felt insecure that she didn’t look young anymore. I wondered if her husband sitting beside her tells her she’s beautiful still. Then I thought how the times that we live in really does make only one generation feel relevant.
If it helps at all. The older generations are actually more pure and real.

View 2 more replies »

OogieBoogie · F

@DayDreamer3 im 55. My generation is the forgotten generation. We have no expectations of being recognized for ourselves.
Ergo we dont strive for it.

I think its why we dont understand the desire for it.

Not that it isnt needed.

Every generation has its own fight, its own battles to engage.
Its how we all move forward.

The thing is & we forget we are fighting for everyone, not just ourselves.

DayDreamer3 · 36-40, F

@OogieBoogie I wonder why they want older generations to feel forgotten? I wonder why they make younger generations feel entitled to it all? I think you have a valid point.. they want us to feel divided.

I long for the day where we are all seen as souls and not body’s and numbers.

OogieBoogie · F

@DayDreamer3 i think its just the natural course of maturation of consciousness:
We start off young and feel vibrant and immortal and all the change of the world is about us and we think we bring it uniquely with us.

- we just dont think about the change that other generations bought with them.
- each new gen feels its the most misunderstood, most rebellious, and must wear the problems the one before created.

Its not until we are older we see a bigger picture as the whole cycle of life replays itself to yet a newer, slightly different tune.
- that each generation builds on the struggles of the one before.

I think youth is so full of joire de vivre and zest its not in their nature to stop and read the road signs first 😅

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I do think of it and I'm slowly preparing for it. I think everyone views it from the perspective of their age. For example now that I'm in my 30s I see myself at the last stop when it would be reasonable to have the first child and I feel no desire for it, so I'm thinking about my place in society as a single childless woman in 5, 10, 20 years. I have approximately 6 years before I become invisible to the part of the public that puts value on the appearance of a young woman. Until then, I'd better come up with something more to offer and persuade others that are important to me that I have value and something irreplaceaple. That's my thinking at least. I don't believe in buzzphrases like "you matter" "you're special just the way you are".

In a way, I think many of us experienced invisibility as children but this is going to be on another level because essentially, from a certain age the public will only see us as a burden and just wait for us to die.

This comment is hidden. Show Comment

caPnAhab · 26-30, M

Sometimes I think about how all of my favorite musicians are in their 50s or older. I want them to be around for a long time and still doing the thing they love, so I can enjoy it too. A lot of them are very lively inside

I hope by the time I'm an old man that I'll still be capable to do the things I love. I'd rather be dead than to be completely dependent on someone else. That's what I really care about

View 3 more replies »

caPnAhab · 26-30, M

@OogieBoogie Thanks, it is the key! And I'm so late in getting it

I was going to ask, why would you get rid of it? I can imagine actually... maintenance is tough, for me at least. But it's well worth a nice ride, especially in the morning. How far would you have to ride to work?

OogieBoogie · F

@caPnAhab oh it was a polite way to say i lost in, along with a lot of other possessions when i left my ex.

It was a really good bike with front fork suspension great gearing.

Dammit😅

Work isnt far. About a five minute drive.
So a bike would be great in summer

caPnAhab · 26-30, M

@OogieBoogie damn, sorry about that. I'm rooting for your next bike

OogieBoogie · F

When i wrote this, i really didn't think others would respond. Its not flippant and fun and typical of here.

I just wanna say " THAN YOU 🤗 to everyone who did.

Its nice to engage in deeper conversations that have meaning. To really SEE others and their minds.

I loved this 🤗🤗🤗

Thanks

dubkebab · 56-60, M

@OogieBoogie I'm really glad I read through it. Stuff we usually don't address.
My post is not together at the moment...as...my mind is not with me just now.
It's been one of those days. Again. Tomorrow ought to be a different one.

peterlee · M

When I reveal my age to someone their attitude to me changes dramatically.

Although I’m comfortable with it, they are not.

So best not let them know , I think.

View 1 more replies »

peterlee · M

@OogieBoogie It’s especially true on here. When I originally joined I was taken aback.

Of course you can lie. A lot of people do.

But in real life I get it too. People ask me what I do for a living. When I say I’m retired they clam up the conversation quickly.

So I just say I’m an artist and keep them guessing.

Magenta · F

@peterlee @OogieBoogie Totally relatable. There is instant judgement of some sort. I see the ageism here frequently. It's easier to just not make it a factor. People are usually shocked anyway. I'd rather just be treated as a human minus the labels and preconceived ideas.

OogieBoogie · F

🤗@Magenta Its a little ironic really. This new generation is all about identity, yet they rarely apply their philosophy to others.

Im just kinda glad that we are both of the forgotten generation - we grew up not having any identity and learnt to cope with it.

BrandNewMan · M

I'm living that now .. and couldnt give an F less about it. My dogs and sons love me .. my close family does. Who else's opinions really matter in your life ?

Markmywurdz · 56-60, M

I once asked a friend “Isn’t it awful, getting older?”
He thought for a moment and replied “Not when you consider the alternative.”

Add a comment...