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The idea behind needing a father figure to become functioning members of society is outdated

I see it a lot online, some kid becomes a juvenile delinquent, some woman becomes an escort, a group of teens/adults steal a lot of items from a convenience store and the first assumption made is they don’t have a father. What’s outdated about it is even though It might be true for some, it’s not for others. Everyone is born and raised in different environments facing different outcomes. Some people come from a loving household raised by both parents and still become sh!tty, convicts, abusers, manipulators, mass murderers, etc. while others don’t. Some people are raised by a single mother and stay out of trouble, with others don’t. I think at the end of the day it depends on the individual.
Heavenlywarrior · 36-40, M
The problem is a family unit that teaches morality and integrity through their actions with each other and discipline their children when they are in error.

Majority of adults nowadays are products of broken homes and children raised by either social media, or the streets.

The minority of sane adults are raised with morals and a loving family unit.

Having a functioning Father and Mother in a home express the Nature of Life.

This is a vital remedy for a thriving nation of wellbeing.
Heavenlywarrior · 36-40, M
@NativePortlander1970 your statement itself is evidence of a broken home.
@Heavenlywarrior Most of my fellow residents had parents that were very stable, one of my roommates fathers was a stockbroker worth millions of US dollars, one of my other roommate's father was a decorated cop, most of the kids I was in there with were trouble makers sent there by the courts for all sorts of things, including habitual shoplifting, drugs, theft, breaking and entering, etc.
Heavenlywarrior · 36-40, M
@NativePortlander1970 yeah you keep proving my point thanks. Very unfortunate. But Glad we are here talking today.
This very topic was discussed at a school PD about behavioural challenges in the classroom. While some people can experience trauma and go on to become fully functioning members of society, not all can. This is due to varying levels of resilience and different personalities, so to better society a stable background is required. The unfortunate reality is that when many couples split, that stability is lost.

As one of a few males in primary education, I can also tell you that boys in particular do require good examples of men in their lives.
Eternity · 26-30, M
It boils down to guidance. Where it comes from is irrelevant. Its more about having the right quality and quantity of guidance.

If that can all come from one person? Cool. Hard to do though.

If it can come from two chicks. Two dudes. A dude and a girl. A cat and a hat with a rat and a bat? Whatever.
PleasurePunch · 100+
I picked up a hitchhiker and he said his parents died. He said he was a student here in my state. He was on a student visa but out of money and staying at all night betting casinos. I gave him a room here for the night and in the morning he peeled an orange and didn't know where to dump the peels, so I gestured to the "outside" so he threw them on the asphalt greenhouse floor instead. I thought that was so strange.

Somehow he was getting money at the casino but I couldn't imagine how. I wanted to take him to this place where he could have gotten some work but he made me take him back to the casino. He was hooked on meth and said he got the habit after coming to the states from his native India.

He looked haunted and lost.. He wanted me to come into the casino and get a free ten dollar voucher to play and I wouldn't.

He seemed to be lost because of his fatherless. Seemed motherless too, he didn't seem to know how to be with any woman, no softness, just timidity and need...before he retired he seemed to think I would join him there.

So that's what no parents can do. Hope you all have some!!!
SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
Agreed, but in a general sense children do best in a loving two parent home.
XxEllaxRawrxX · 13-15
Preach. I've been without my bio dad literally my whole life and I'm doing better than most kids I know that have the normal, standard family. Dad, mom, kids, etc. Who's in and not in your life doesn't determine what kind of person you are and can become! <3
Bumbles · 51-55, M
Overall it’s better for kids to have fathers and for men to be respected as fathers. There are many exceptions, of course.
The biggest issue is that fatherlessness thrusts families into poverty which causes a host of issues. This is all well documented.
AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M
Every statistic says you’re wrong .
Patriot96 · 56-60, C
@AthrillatheHunt havent done much sociology have you
AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M
@Patriot96 I’m a voracious reader. I also teach in the inner city where I see the statistics play out in real life on the daily.
It’s disheartening .
Patriot96 · 56-60, C
@AthrillatheHunt the breakup of the black family started with the great society. The govt pays women to have children out of wedlock
Lisafriend27 · 31-35, F
Yes I agree, and don't understand them, they should give themselves a chance. 😀🤗💛🌷🌷🌻🌻
SarahAndSamantha · 46-50, F
I had three different 'father' figures.....and look how I turned out
hannahJ · F
Yeah my dad is a POS and we would have been better off without him ever being around. But now im raising my siblings and my older brother has come home to help and the difference in our younger brother is CRAZY. He needed a good male role model so so badly and is doing so much better with a decent man in the house telling him whats what
Patriot96 · 56-60, C
It is a basic in nature
This trope started in the 70's and 80's when divorces skyrocketed, creating the epidemic of latchkey kids, it was also very racist as they mostly attributed it to minorities in the inner cities.
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Puppycat23 · F
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout you weren’t looking hard enough then.

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