I'm borderline incapable of showing people compassion in person. It's this enormous mental block I have to overcome every time.

And even then, it always comes out really unenthusiastic and weak.

Completely unlike how I am here on SW. IDK why I'm like that.

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Notladylike

Could you be neurodivegent? I have a similar issue I have to mask to respond in ways that are considered socially acceptable responses. It’s not because I don’t care it’s just because in person interactions are so overstimulating for me at times.

BlueVeins · 22-25

@Notladylike Dunno, I've sorta tried getting tested but it's difficult and results aren't guaranteed.

AmbivalentFriability · 26-30

I can relate. I personally kinda have to go into auto pilot mode in order to interact with people in person, which makes expressing more sincere and vulnerable things pretty difficult. Hard to dissociate and be soft at the same time.

BlueVeins · 22-25

@AmbivalentFriability I think I'm very fake, and that's why most people don't like me.

AmbivalentFriability · 26-30

@BlueVeins Is it a defense mechanism?

BlueVeins · 22-25

@AmbivalentFriability Probably I guess. I do think the real me, insofar as such a thing even exists, is humiliating in the extreme.

Fishy · 36-40, F

Can relate.

For me, it's not because I'm not compassionate, but because I'm absent minded and not in the moment and have trouble with switching gears 😬

On the internet, I can just type and use emojis lol
And I have more time to formulate a response

Donotfolowme · 51-55, F

Well

LordShadowfire · 46-50, M

It sounds like you could have clinical sociopathy or narcissism. Please keep in mind that when I say this, it's not a character judgment, but a description of actual conditions.

Maybe talk to a psychiatrist. Certain conditions can only be fixed with pills.

BlueVeins · 22-25

@LordShadowfire I don't think that explains it. I can still feel compassion very deeply, it's just the actual expression that is extremely difficult.

LordShadowfire · 46-50, M

@BlueVeins Wow. Yeah, I don't know.

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BlueVeins · 22-25

@jshm2 Honestly, I've come to find that this is the answer to a lot of my problems.

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